| Background: My wife and I will be married for 10 years this October. In 2007 her mother died. Since then she has a seriously unhealthy attachment to her father. Lets expand on that: This is one example, this BS has gone on for years. He lives just over an hour away in drive time, by choice (he hunts deer live in the middle of nowhere). If his car needs to go into the shop, he calls her to meet her there. He recently decided that his 10X10 bedroom needed painted and this required her. She has been there "painting" for just over 2 months. On and off, mostly on. So Tuesday night (last night) I had had it, and drove down there. I finished painting the freaking thing in 3 hours. That done I figured this crap was over. Tonight happens. He drives up here, says he needs help on the computer, I figure fine what ever. He shows up about 3pm and my wife says she needs to go to the post office to ship an item she sold on ebay. He says I will take you. Cool, whatever. I say, hey I am off at 5, we should go fishing, you been gone all week, you gonna be back by then? She says yes. They roll in at 6, again, whatever, no big deal. I was cleaning the pool and they went inside. 1/2 hour later I come in, he is all talking about how he is about to have back surgery (true) and will need to live with us for 6 weeks (fine, family is family). Then he says hey you all want to watch a movie and order pizza? At this point my wife is going to be gone all day tomorrow and has been gone at his house to "paint" for over a month way more nights than not (including sleeping there...in his bed with him I found out). I look at the clock, it says 7pm. I bite my tounge and say....sure!! Then it turns out they are going to order a pizza but after that they are going to drive 20 min into town and buy a head of lettuce to make a salad and then pick up the pizza. They as me if I want to go. Fine. So I drive, drop him off at the door (supposedly handycapped but he hunts deer with no problem.) and they send me to a store in the same stip mall to pick up bleach. I grab it, go park by the store they are in and wait 20 min. They show up and then I drive 10 min to grab pizza and then home. I eat a few pieces, they literally consume a salad and the rest of the pizza, spend 2.5 hours talking at the table. At this point we are pushing 10PM. I ask if they could watch the movie another night (clearly not getting laid at this point) as it will be midnight by the time it is over on a work night for me (again she doesn't work and he is on a disablilty settlement). They both ask me why and look at me like I have 2 heads. I said fine, watch the movie and my wife goes well we can't now. So he continues to hang around for another 45 min and finally decides to leave. My wife then follows him out the door, talks with him while he sits in his car for about an hour and finally comes in. IN A RAGE that I asked can you watch the movie another night, this is her house too and that was BS. Went in the bathroom, had a bath, came to the living room, watched a 1 hour show (we didn't speak) and went to bed. There is SOOOOO much more to this story, it's like I am at war with my father in law for my wifes presence. She spends about %65 of her time with him because he "needs" her to go pickup this item from craigslist that he found, or buy this item from store x. The other 20% she spends with her friends because they miss her, 10% out shopping and the last 5% with me because she has nothing else to do. During that 5% I am general getting yelled at for asking her to spend some 1 one 1 time with me. Yet all I do is set here and work, then clean the pool and wait for her to come home. Nice to meet you all said the doormat. Screw this. I am worth more. | |||
| | |||
| | |||
|
No comments:
Post a Comment