| Hello everyone, some of you may remember my thread from a few months ago about having a non-Muslim boyfriend. At the end of the discussion, most people agreed that telling mom and dad was the best way forward for me. Well I waited until school went out to do it. I told them last week. And, as I had feared, they flipped out. I got called names, told I was committing a sin, what would happen to me when I died etc... My mom has been trying to coax me into leaving him, my dad won't even speak to me. I told them everything that happened, and made it clear that I was not going to leave him. My parents have now told me that I have to choose between them and my BF; if I choose them, I have to dump him. If I choose him, I'll have to leave the home, and they'll disown me. I have until the end of the month (June) to make the decision. I am completely torn. I love my parents and it breaks my heart to see how hurt they are, I hate the fact that they're mad at me. On the other hand, I love my BF as well. We have been together for about 2.5 years now, and I can't imagine life without him. He has moved mountains for me; it took him forever to get his family to accept me, Sikhs and Muslims don't really have the best history, they thought I was out to convert him. But they came around and consider me one of their own. His friends were pleasant, but the wider Sikh community, like the people at the temple, were much harder to convince. He stood by me and never made me feel alone. Before anyone says "how will you reconcile your different religions", the people that read my last thread already know this, but I have no intentions of staying Muslim. I will convert to Sikhism officially to marry him, in my heart, I am no longer a Muslim anymore. I don't want to get into a debate about this, if you are curious to know why, you can read the last thread, I don't want to talk about it here. So I need help making this decision. If I do get kicked out, I can stay with my grandma and aunt (who both met him, love him, and support us), or his family, who already see me as their future daughter-in-law, so finding a place to stay isn't the issue. I am leaning towards being with my boyfriend. I don't want an arranged marriage, and I am not going to marry a Muslim man regardless, since I don't believe in the religion. If I stayed with my parents, I'd be expected to marry into a Muslim family, and I just can't. I've already found a great guy, and I don't want to lose him. It's been real hard on him too to keep our relationship a secret from 90% of the people we know, but he hasn't ever complained, so I'm sure he's in this for the long haul too, and wants me to stay. Am I making the right decision? What can I do to convince my parents? The thought of hurting them makes me cry, but I can't live my life for anyone else. I'm just really confused! | |||
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