| First of all this is not Russ 101, my name is John, but since my wife is very computer savy and I am not, Russ told me about this site and is letting me use his name so I apoligize if I don't get back to everyone in a timely manner since I will only be able to answer back once, or twice a week. This is long, so my apolgies. First some background. My wife and I are both 47 and have been married for 22 years, with two children (18, and 12). Like most marriages, we have had our ups and downs but we always got by. Most of our downs throughout our marriage have been about money. I have worked in the same office for 18 years, and am happy, but only make about $50,000 a year. My wife never wanted to work, but she said she was forced to when I wouldn't go out and get another job that paid more (jobs in my field were hard to come by that paid more, and I never really looked that hard). Anyway, she went to work in a very large company back in 04, and moved up the ladder fairly quickly. My wife has always put 150% into anything she did, so I never questioned it when she would be at work until 7-8:00 at night most days (Her normal work day ends at 5:00) and start working from home on the computer as soon as she finished dinner. If you knew my wife, this was normal behavior. About 4 years ago my wife said something to me that caught me completely by surprise. She said that a couple of people at work thought she was having an affair with her boss and to not be surprised if one of them tried to ever call me. I asked her, are you? and she denied it completely, saying it was a couple of ladies that didn't like her, and because she did spend alot of time with her boss they were just gossiping. She has always been very against anyone that was cheating on their spouse and would always comment on how wrong it was, etc. The call never came and I just took her at her word. After this revelation, I did a little investigating and found out that she was talking to her boss every night on her phone, always when she was out of the house shopping, or after I had gone to bed. I flipped out and asked her what could she possibly be talking about with him every night. She told me she and had become very close friends and talked on the phone just like she would with any other friend. She said he isn't even attractive, besides, you know I would NEVER cheat on you. I decided to still gather more evidence just to be sure she was telling me the truth. I hid a VAR in her car and in the den where she was doing most of her calls to him. I never found out anything, other that the fact that they really did just talk about work. They were almost like school girls on the phone, gossiping about other workers, etc. so I stopped checking up on her after a few weeks. In 2010 he was transferred to another state, and my wife was devastated. It was as if a family member died. She continued to talk to him at least once every other day at night, and I did hear one conversation with him where she told him while crying how she missed him. That was the only evidence I ever got. Three days ago I started talking with a friend who moved back here from out of state (he moved away three years ago as well but to a different state). We were neve close but we did go out to the local pub because he said he had something to tell me. Just before my wife's boss transferred out of state, The company has a massive party at one of the CEO's home on a large estate. Our entire family went but my wife drove seperately because she was running late and didn't want to hold the rest of us up. My friend was there, as well as my wifes boss. I remember my wife dressing up with a short black dress and black panty hose and high heels, she looked great. Her boss got very drunk at this party and at my wife urged him to go home at one point. He said he would and left. this is where the story picks up. My friend was in his car at the time making a private call out in the parking lot which was hidden back from the party. He saw my wifes boss get in his car but left the ca r door open, and a couple of minutes later, my wife came by (I remember this because my wife told me she was going to follow him home in her car to make sure he made it ok, and even though I was not happy about it, she went anyway, saying I could leave any time and she would meet me at home). My friend saw my wife come up to his car standing beside his open door and they talked for a couple of minutes, then he said the boss put his hand on my wifes leg just around the knee and started slowly caressing her leg and she just kept talking to him. He said this went on for at least a couple of minutes, they were in a secluded spot where no one could see them, or so they thought. He said that after a couple of minutes her boss started working his hand up her thigh under her dress, and she pulled his hand out fairly quickly, off of her completely. He said they continued to talk for a couple more minutes, then he closed his door, and she got in her car and left. I got home about two hours after she left since my kids were having such a good time at the party, I stayed a while longer. She was already home when I got there and just talked about how drunk her boss was and how annoyed she was with him for getting that way. He transferred out of state about a month after this party. I am just finding this out now and have said nothing to my wife as of yet. I cannot believe she would let him rub her leg for a couple of minutes unless something was going on. I am not sure how I should approach this with my wife. If I confront her, I am sure she will just say he was drunk and tried something with her and she pushed him away immediately. She will not admit to how long it took her to actually push his hand away. She would call my friend a liar and say he was saying it because he doesn't like her (which is true). A couple of other notes to let all of you know: while my wife was working for her boss, she always got very dressed up. Sexy dresses full make up, etc. I always liked it because of the way she looked, but I noticed that she stopped, the minute he moved away, and would just dress in very plain clothes, and not even wear make-up to work on most days. The worst part of all of this is that he is being transferred back here in June even though he will not be by wife's boss, he will be working in the same building, and is now a fairly big wig in the company. He is single and has never been married. My wife is very happy that he is moving back although she doesn't talk about it very much with me because she knows I don't think her relationship with him is appropriate (I have read some of her texts to him this is why I know). I want to confront her about what happened at that party 3 years ago, but I know what her response will be and have no way of proving other wise. What s hould I do? | |||
| | |||
| | |||
|
No comments:
Post a Comment