breaking up with gf - scared

The time has come, myself and my gf - we're in our late 20s and together now 16 months - are not working out. There is no intimacy, she lies constantly (so theres no honesty, actual communication and i dont trust her) she is the kind of person who buries her head in the sand and wont deal with issues. She lives at home and has no intention of moving out (she has it really easy there) - she likes to talk about us moving in together, marriage children etc etc - but there is no intention of actually doing any of this. Her mom still makes her bed ffs. We have had issues that she refuses to deal with and talk about (unless i bring it up and then she just nods) and its driven a massive wedge into the relationship that i will not look past. I cannot be with someone who will not commit, will not tell me the truth and whom i cannot trust. But shes not all bad, far from it in many ways shes wonderful and i far from dislike her and the relationship atm is not bitter and nasty - just empty. But ive not done this for a long time, my last relationship ended with her breaking up with me after i caught her cheating (and that lasted 8 years) and i have to admit im scared, im going to hurt her and i dont want to but ive been and seen relatonships where they just stagnate and become bitter, stuff that gets buried doesnt go away it just stagnates and poisons things. Dunno what im asking here - guess just feeling very blurgh about everything

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