I'm 39, my wife is 33 and we have a 2 year old son. We've been married 2.5 years. My wife asked me for a separation at the beginning of July. It was not something I wanted nor did or do I really understand it. I do have some anger issues but never hit her, threatened to hit her, I don't even call her names. I'm not trying to deny certain tendencies to become emotionally abusive through isolating myself, I just didn't think a separation was necessary while I work on my issues and our issues. I did emotionally abandon her and I didn't share and communicate like a good partner. I missed certain events that were important to her. I was truly ignorant, I was raised so dysfunctionally that I just didn't realize. This doesn't excuse the neglect, its just to explain that it was not something directed at her.
I moved out, realized I needed to stop the cycle of fighting and making up. I went to an out patient program for 3 weeks, to address panic attacks that manifest as anger and PTSD from childhood. I learned a lot. My wife and I started communicating in a healthy manner. I spent 7 straight days with my wife and son, we all seemed happy.
Yesterday at marriage counseling, my wife told me that she doesn't see me changing and doesn't want me at the house. She loves me but doesn't know if she's in love with me. I asked if she wanted a divorce and she says for right now, no. She just needs a real separation to figure things out. I need some insight on this, I'm so confused. Is this something that time and space can help heal? I love her and I tell her that every day. I've started sharing my feelings and communicating well but I think its making her feel pressured, am I wrong?
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I moved out, realized I needed to stop the cycle of fighting and making up. I went to an out patient program for 3 weeks, to address panic attacks that manifest as anger and PTSD from childhood. I learned a lot. My wife and I started communicating in a healthy manner. I spent 7 straight days with my wife and son, we all seemed happy.
Yesterday at marriage counseling, my wife told me that she doesn't see me changing and doesn't want me at the house. She loves me but doesn't know if she's in love with me. I asked if she wanted a divorce and she says for right now, no. She just needs a real separation to figure things out. I need some insight on this, I'm so confused. Is this something that time and space can help heal? I love her and I tell her that every day. I've started sharing my feelings and communicating well but I think its making her feel pressured, am I wrong?
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