im not sure where to start.. im a female in my 20s at uni and now that its summer ive realised how lonely and alone i really am.
things never used to be like this, or not as bad as this. i used to have solid friend groups who id see regularly, go on nights out with, go shopping with. but now i dont have anyone. things happened and we fell out, and one by one i lost everyone. i take responsibility for my actions and part to play in it all, but i dont know how im meant to move on and form new friendships.
i know people will suggest things like join a club, join societies at uni, but ive tried. i know people at uni, i have made the effort and made 'friends', but they are only uni friends. ive tried in the past to arrange nights out and things but its never happened. so its clear they only want to be friends in class and not anything further. which i suppose is fine for while im at uni, but during times like now, the summer, i dont have anyone.
i live at home so making friends at uni hasnt been that easy, but ive still put myself out there and tried. i went to societies and met people, however when i tried messaging them on fb, theyd read my messages and not reply. after a while of getting ignored by everyone i tried to make friends with, it feels like ive hit a dead end. and these people would be fine with me in person, but again it seems like they dont want the 'friendship' to go any further.
i even tried going to a local hobby thing (dont want to be specific incase anyone figures out who i am hah) but everyone there were already in their own groups and didnt try to speak to anyone else. so i mostly spent my time there by myself. i did try to speak to people, but always found that they would eventually want to get away from me (i get this impression from people a lot, i dont think i talk too much or are annoying, so i dunno what im doing wrong with regards to this :/)
i dont have any females friends i can go shopping with or do girly things with. i have tried with the females i know and they act like they have some guard up against me. females also tend to become really negative and self pitying around me, and i dunno why i seem to bring out that side of them. i seem to become the free therapist, and they dont want me for any other purpose, they dont want to have fun or a laugh, but instead complain about how they are 'fat and ugly'.
i feel like its going to be a long lonely summer. and im not feeling sorry for myself (maybe a bit haha) but i feel like i have tried so hard for so long, and i havent gotten anywhere.
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