So my husband is having an affair and it's breaking my heart. He asks me for 3 weeks more, saying it will be all over by then as she is moving away. He says that he doesn't want to break out family. Says he got in a tangle mess he is having trouble letting go.
I am trying to give him the time he asks- please don't judge. My question is how do I move on? How do I learn not to care without being unfaithful? How do I harden my heart and distance myself? I need to do this for my sanity and emotional health. Also to preserve the love I have for him. Also I think that it will be better for a- he doesn't break up and we separate/divorce. And B- when he is ready to be the husband he can earn me back.
I know my value- I am smart, financially can be very independent, I am good looking, and have a nice body.
The issue is I still love him, I am very forgiving, very empathic, and extremely understanding. I know he is been a selfish prick, but I also see where he stands. So I endure but now after months of this I feel like I cannot any longer. So how do I turn off these qualities to move on? Or what do I need to do to detach myself temporarily? Yes temporarily, I do want to keep my family together but I the same time I want to not hurt, and I want him to earn us back and mend things. I know it's stupid to trust someone who has betrayed me so deeply. But I feel that he is been honest and although not easy to hear I feel that I at least have that while he lies to her. Twisted I know.
I am trying to give him the time he asks- please don't judge. My question is how do I move on? How do I learn not to care without being unfaithful? How do I harden my heart and distance myself? I need to do this for my sanity and emotional health. Also to preserve the love I have for him. Also I think that it will be better for a- he doesn't break up and we separate/divorce. And B- when he is ready to be the husband he can earn me back.
I know my value- I am smart, financially can be very independent, I am good looking, and have a nice body.
The issue is I still love him, I am very forgiving, very empathic, and extremely understanding. I know he is been a selfish prick, but I also see where he stands. So I endure but now after months of this I feel like I cannot any longer. So how do I turn off these qualities to move on? Or what do I need to do to detach myself temporarily? Yes temporarily, I do want to keep my family together but I the same time I want to not hurt, and I want him to earn us back and mend things. I know it's stupid to trust someone who has betrayed me so deeply. But I feel that he is been honest and although not easy to hear I feel that I at least have that while he lies to her. Twisted I know.
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