This is something I was thinking about, and saw a few other people post the same exact thoughts, so why not open it up for discussion. What got me thinking about this, a week ago I was talking to a guy at the gym, and he was telling me he was set to get married in September (him and his fiance are both young, around 23). I told him I got married around the same age and for the most part it had been great, I had no regrets, and even though I was sure a lot of other guys would try and dissuade him from getting married at all (or at a minimum at such a young age), if he felt it was the right thing to do go for it. He seemed to be appreciative of this, guessing he has gotten different feedback from others lol.
Later that day I was talking to my wife about this (honestly I think I was more excited b/c it turned out as well the guy at the gym eats his ice cream in a bowl of milk. To me this is the only way to eat ice cream, best of both worlds, yet everyone always looks at me like I am an alien when I mention this :D. I don't even know how that conversation came up lol). Anyways, I told my wife the advice I gave him and that most men would probably give different advice. She then asked me why I thought that, did I think a lot of married men were unhappy, and my answer almost automatically was "yes". As I thought about it a bit more, I realized that part of my perception about married men/marriage had changed from spending time on TAM. Obviously many people come to TAM for relationship help, but after a while when you continuously read threads about affairs, lying, sexless marriages, negative tones, etc... even if it is something you can't necessarily relate to in your own relationshi p, it does start to alter your view (at least it did in my case).
So thoughts, has TAM altered your views of relationship, or maybe even how you view men/women in general based on how they may be portrayed here?
Later that day I was talking to my wife about this (honestly I think I was more excited b/c it turned out as well the guy at the gym eats his ice cream in a bowl of milk. To me this is the only way to eat ice cream, best of both worlds, yet everyone always looks at me like I am an alien when I mention this :D. I don't even know how that conversation came up lol). Anyways, I told my wife the advice I gave him and that most men would probably give different advice. She then asked me why I thought that, did I think a lot of married men were unhappy, and my answer almost automatically was "yes". As I thought about it a bit more, I realized that part of my perception about married men/marriage had changed from spending time on TAM. Obviously many people come to TAM for relationship help, but after a while when you continuously read threads about affairs, lying, sexless marriages, negative tones, etc... even if it is something you can't necessarily relate to in your own relationshi p, it does start to alter your view (at least it did in my case).
So thoughts, has TAM altered your views of relationship, or maybe even how you view men/women in general based on how they may be portrayed here?
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