I have been seeing this guy for about a month now and things seemed to be going pretty well. Last night we go out on a date and we got into a conversation about where we are. He basically told me that he sometimes feels really romantically towards me and that he is falling for me, and other times he feels like it's not so romantic and more friendly.
We are so alike that he said it is like being on a date with himself, but he obviously feels more for me than just friends because we have more than that, he just doesn't know if he will ever get to the point where I am at, because I am way more invested in him. He also said since his last girlfriend he seems emotionally detached.
He also said he has been into girls before really quickly so he is concerned that he just isn't getting to that point with me. I feel like when you know you know? I mean, sometimes he said he just doesn't feel the spark and it feels too comfortable and not exciting enough. He actually described it as how he could imagine feeling with someone after being married for years...and then other times he says we have these amazing moments where he is really into it.
All of this although honest, made me feel pretty bummed out. I actually cried a bit on our date. It was stupid but we slept together a week ago and I don't just sleep with anybody. I thought we were both at the same point and felt good enough about us to do so. I feel such an idiot now because I had no idea he felt this way.
I don't think he just used me for that, because we have only done it once and he has taken me out since all on dates, so it isn't like every time he wants to meet up he wants to come over if you know what I mean…but he even said he doesn't know what his problem is because he knows I'm so right for him.
It was left that he still wants to continuing hanging out and getting to know me, and he would hate to just see me go. He said he wants to get to that point because he knows I'm a really good fit for him...it was weird too because when we talked about if not seeing each other anymore was the better option, his eyes filled up. I just don't understand him.
I'm not sure how to take all of that really. I know we have the potential to be something amazing, but I'm not sure if it's worth waiting around to see if someone may start to get those strong feelings? I don't know what to do
We are so alike that he said it is like being on a date with himself, but he obviously feels more for me than just friends because we have more than that, he just doesn't know if he will ever get to the point where I am at, because I am way more invested in him. He also said since his last girlfriend he seems emotionally detached.
He also said he has been into girls before really quickly so he is concerned that he just isn't getting to that point with me. I feel like when you know you know? I mean, sometimes he said he just doesn't feel the spark and it feels too comfortable and not exciting enough. He actually described it as how he could imagine feeling with someone after being married for years...and then other times he says we have these amazing moments where he is really into it.
All of this although honest, made me feel pretty bummed out. I actually cried a bit on our date. It was stupid but we slept together a week ago and I don't just sleep with anybody. I thought we were both at the same point and felt good enough about us to do so. I feel such an idiot now because I had no idea he felt this way.
I don't think he just used me for that, because we have only done it once and he has taken me out since all on dates, so it isn't like every time he wants to meet up he wants to come over if you know what I mean…but he even said he doesn't know what his problem is because he knows I'm so right for him.
It was left that he still wants to continuing hanging out and getting to know me, and he would hate to just see me go. He said he wants to get to that point because he knows I'm a really good fit for him...it was weird too because when we talked about if not seeing each other anymore was the better option, his eyes filled up. I just don't understand him.
I'm not sure how to take all of that really. I know we have the potential to be something amazing, but I'm not sure if it's worth waiting around to see if someone may start to get those strong feelings? I don't know what to do
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