Haven't seen anything about this on the boards, but this is my current struggle.
My ex and I knew each other for about 10 years before we started dating. And we were a part of a tight circle of friends. He has insisted on trying his best to keep relationships with everyone, while I haven't been able to to do that.
People who have chosen to be close friends with him, have not been people I have wanted to hang out. I've unfriended peole from facebook, because they are constantly posting pictures of him and it guts me.
Some of you may know that my ex moved next door to my brother and his girlfriend. I was really angry at him for doing that. But I recently found out that my brother's girlfriend has been asking my ex to pet sit for them.
I was really hurt by that. I told her and my brother how I felt and have left it that. But my feelings haven't changed.
Now my bestfriend is in town. In all honesty, I have felt very frustrated by her in general, as she has kept wanting to point out the good in my ex.
I feel like there is some pressure to be more concilatory than I actually feel.
In any case,I am currently hurt because she is here from Tuesday to Monday and she is spending the whole weekend with my ex. I have hung out with her in the evenings after work, but the weekend has been dedicated to him and friends that have chosen them.
And of course, I know it's unfair. Because I did just spend two weeks with her when I went to visit her.
I am also hurt, because she has forgotten plans with me. We were supposed to spend the afternoon together, but she has forgotten that we talked about it and is now spending the entire day with my ex.
And even though, on a cognitive level, I know that she has the right to hang out with anyone she wants, and my brother's girlfriend can ask anyone she wants to help her...I feel doubly betrayed. And I feel like I don't have the rights to these feelings.
So I grin and bear it, even though I am so hurt.
So really, am I the only one to have experienced this?
My ex and I knew each other for about 10 years before we started dating. And we were a part of a tight circle of friends. He has insisted on trying his best to keep relationships with everyone, while I haven't been able to to do that.
People who have chosen to be close friends with him, have not been people I have wanted to hang out. I've unfriended peole from facebook, because they are constantly posting pictures of him and it guts me.
Some of you may know that my ex moved next door to my brother and his girlfriend. I was really angry at him for doing that. But I recently found out that my brother's girlfriend has been asking my ex to pet sit for them.
I was really hurt by that. I told her and my brother how I felt and have left it that. But my feelings haven't changed.
Now my bestfriend is in town. In all honesty, I have felt very frustrated by her in general, as she has kept wanting to point out the good in my ex.
I feel like there is some pressure to be more concilatory than I actually feel.
In any case,I am currently hurt because she is here from Tuesday to Monday and she is spending the whole weekend with my ex. I have hung out with her in the evenings after work, but the weekend has been dedicated to him and friends that have chosen them.
And of course, I know it's unfair. Because I did just spend two weeks with her when I went to visit her.
I am also hurt, because she has forgotten plans with me. We were supposed to spend the afternoon together, but she has forgotten that we talked about it and is now spending the entire day with my ex.
And even though, on a cognitive level, I know that she has the right to hang out with anyone she wants, and my brother's girlfriend can ask anyone she wants to help her...I feel doubly betrayed. And I feel like I don't have the rights to these feelings.
So I grin and bear it, even though I am so hurt.
So really, am I the only one to have experienced this?
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