My story is long and complicated but I'll try to be concise.* Husband cheated for a year with women he reported he was in love with for a long time. I found out after a year and he told me he'd break it off BUT he continued to have contact with her for another year. I caught him several times and each time he pleaded that it was the last time. Now another year has passed and I haven't caught him and he reports no contact for a year.
Here's the caveat...
My husband does not allow me access to any of his electronics. No email accounts, cell phone accounts, Facebook or texts. His phone, I pad and laptop are all password or fingerprint protected. We have gone round and round with each other and our therapist* (2 years of counseling) but he will not relent on this issue. He feels he should not have to " be controlled".
At one point, when he was seeing her behind my back he allowed me to access all accounts*but he just opened new accounts, new phones, and hidden apps. It was overwhelming and a no win for me.
*My choice is to leave or live with this lack of transparency and try to trust him.
I've decided to try to heal in spite of this and as you can imagine it's almost impossible.* I don't know if I should just give up. Two beautiful children in this family.* Anyone else trying to heal in this situation? We are at 2 years since d day.
Here's the caveat...
My husband does not allow me access to any of his electronics. No email accounts, cell phone accounts, Facebook or texts. His phone, I pad and laptop are all password or fingerprint protected. We have gone round and round with each other and our therapist* (2 years of counseling) but he will not relent on this issue. He feels he should not have to " be controlled".
At one point, when he was seeing her behind my back he allowed me to access all accounts*but he just opened new accounts, new phones, and hidden apps. It was overwhelming and a no win for me.
*My choice is to leave or live with this lack of transparency and try to trust him.
I've decided to try to heal in spite of this and as you can imagine it's almost impossible.* I don't know if I should just give up. Two beautiful children in this family.* Anyone else trying to heal in this situation? We are at 2 years since d day.
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