Basically, I find this quite a lot; I am intimidated by extremely attractive girls, or at least girls I find attractive (by my standards at least).
I'm a guy, and I suppose I don't really see myself as particularly appealing to women in general, and I'd say I'm probably not even average at best. Hence, why I feel why would a really hot girl like me? Plus, it may just been me jumping the gun, but some hot girls have attitude problems, and are stick up (in my limited experience).
Which reinforces this low sense of self belief/esteem which has developed in me. I mean, low self esteem isn't my only issue here, I have other mental health issues, but this is one aspect where it is affected.
Trouble is, it's always the ones you find hot that are very 'self assured' and pretentious and love themselves, of course this isn't limited to the ladies, but since I'm a guy this thread relates to my interactions and feelings about attractive women.
I thought the way I felt was perhaps unique to me, yet a quick Google brings up a lot of similar experiences of people with such low self esteem and gender intimidation.
I guess logically it's all just a fear of rejection; where otherwise healthy high esteemed individuals would not fear rejection and do not suffer this.
I'm actually taken now, and very happy in my relationship now, but had a reflective moment whereby I thought over my life, deducing, I probably missed out on lots of opportunities due to these issues. I guess the only resolve is to boost esteem, but part of the problem is society and the fact people are still valued on their looks. It's sad really.
A lot of women tend to go for these self assured, cocky types, and almost always go for the jock type, or the jack the lad, or indeed the most masculine, to the exclusion of the lesser masculine. With the exception of my partner, whom I feel probably took me out of pity haha. I honestly wonder why she loves me.
Anybody relate to my feelings?
Put the internet to work for you.
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