Last year, I told my best friend that I'm in love with her and asked her to be my girlfriend. She said "no" but let me down gently. However, after much show of desperation and neediness by me, I think she got angry and among other harsh things, she told me that I am a boring guy and all I care about is my academics and career. She said she is not attracted to me and told me to find another girl as my girlfriend. Out of anger, I gave her responses which she did not like and we stopped talking for many months.
Excerpts from an old thread that I posted: "I got in touch with her two months ago and she has been initiating lots of contact and we are back as good friends. I asked her why she didn't make any effort to contact and she said that though she is not one for emotions, I hurt her by what I did to her after asking her out.
Recently, we were texting and I told her my ordeals after asking her out. Then she replied that I never asked her out that all I did was tell I like her and asked her for how she feels about me. She said I didn't ask her to be my girlfriend. I found this very shocking.. What else did she think I was asking for last year?
Two of us went out alone and she started showing me a text that a guy sent to her (the guy was saying "I miss you", " I love you", etc) and asked me for what she should reply back to the guy. She told me she does not like the guy because he is not a loyal friend. However, she calls me her best and most loyal friend. Also, during our meet up, she told me that her family have asked her why she is not going out with me (they asked if she sees anything wrong in me) and she told them that it is because I have plans to move out of UK in future while she doesn't want to move out. Also, she told me that I am a boyfriend candidate. She also says her family sees both of us getting married in future. She gave me a message that I am the best and most loyal friend a girl can have. On that same day, she did something very nice and when I got home, I sent her a text saying that is one of the reasons I love her. She replied that "I love you too probably not in the way you want but in the way that matters to me" (those two texts scream friend zone!). "
I have told her that I am still interested in her. She replied that I make it awkward for her whenever I raise the topic and that she feels bad that she can't give me what I want. Later on, she told me that she has not friend zoned me and that she actually loves me a lot and has thought of us together but she does not want our friendship to be ruined if the relationship fails. She told me she has had bad experiences with guys. She said we should wait a bit before we move into a relationship.
My question is girls, will you lie to a guy that you love him so to make him feel better? Do you think she loves me.
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