so... for those of you who were in a sexless marriage and then ended that relationship and moved on, what was your sex life like with your next partner? I'm assuming, at least at first, you had a higher sex drive and need for sex... but did it last long term, or just after you'd had your fill so to speak?
Like for me... had been literally sexless, no sex, for over 2 years. I feel sex has become that more important to me, and I for sure will have a higher need for sex at least at first. But is my sex drive permanently altered long term? I could see it as yes and no... yes because I've learned to appreciate having good sex with a good person and therefore would not take it for granted and would prioritize it... sex has become a part my love language. I will need to feel wanted in that way, often. I'm excited about sex. It's a must that I have a partner who feels the same, and if they wanted it everyday... heck, that sounds AMAZING right now.
But I could also see it as no, it wouldn't be permanent... it's just I've been so repressed so I want to go crazy so to speak, but it'd return back to "normal" after a year or so... whatever "normal" is for me, I'm not sure! My stbxh did not have a higher sex drive than me so I never had to reject him...
So... could I possibly be permanently high drive now (whereas before I'd say I was average drive) or just temporarily? This is both purely just for speculation and also to hear others stories!!! Because I know there are many of you like me who went through sexlessness and then moved on!
Like for me... had been literally sexless, no sex, for over 2 years. I feel sex has become that more important to me, and I for sure will have a higher need for sex at least at first. But is my sex drive permanently altered long term? I could see it as yes and no... yes because I've learned to appreciate having good sex with a good person and therefore would not take it for granted and would prioritize it... sex has become a part my love language. I will need to feel wanted in that way, often. I'm excited about sex. It's a must that I have a partner who feels the same, and if they wanted it everyday... heck, that sounds AMAZING right now.
But I could also see it as no, it wouldn't be permanent... it's just I've been so repressed so I want to go crazy so to speak, but it'd return back to "normal" after a year or so... whatever "normal" is for me, I'm not sure! My stbxh did not have a higher sex drive than me so I never had to reject him...
So... could I possibly be permanently high drive now (whereas before I'd say I was average drive) or just temporarily? This is both purely just for speculation and also to hear others stories!!! Because I know there are many of you like me who went through sexlessness and then moved on!
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