I'm 39 (second marriage) and H is 34 (first marriage), no kids for either of us. Been married almost 4 years, together for 6.
I've always been extremely HD. When H and I were first together, there was lots of sex. He claims I was always the initiator, maybe that's true? He's said in past relationships he was content with max 2x a week. Our sex is off the charts, best we've ever had. He used to say it was sooo satisfying that he didn't need it as often.
We've been overseas most of our relationship. B/c of this, it's hard for me to find a job. We recently moved to a new country. It's been stressful as we've had lots of things to deal with here. H has been extremely tired and our sex life has dwindled. There have been times when it's once a week or two.
He mentioned to me last night that it's b/c he never has his "alone time" anymore. That I'm always at the house when he's here. And that not masturbating has caused him to not want it anymore. He said that "I" get my alone time and it's not fair.
At our last place, I worked PT at a retail store. I found out he was coming home at lunch while I was working to take care of business. It wouldn't have bothered me...except I worked in the next building and he'd stop by to see me when I worked. That stopped. My coworkers would ask where he was at. His coworkers would come by and ask where he was.
Him having his alone time didn't really increase the frequency either. He still didn't initiate. I found out that he watched porn in the bathroom one night while I was at home...that hurt the most that he'd rather do that alone than come to me.
I mentioned that maybe I should start going out (to the gym or fitness classes) so he can be alone. I can't go shopping as the stores here close early. I have one GF but she lives far away and we only see each other during the day every couple of weeks. Part of me wants to give him his alone time but I'm not sure if it will help. Is this normal? Does a guy lose his drive if he's not masturbating?
I've always been extremely HD. When H and I were first together, there was lots of sex. He claims I was always the initiator, maybe that's true? He's said in past relationships he was content with max 2x a week. Our sex is off the charts, best we've ever had. He used to say it was sooo satisfying that he didn't need it as often.
We've been overseas most of our relationship. B/c of this, it's hard for me to find a job. We recently moved to a new country. It's been stressful as we've had lots of things to deal with here. H has been extremely tired and our sex life has dwindled. There have been times when it's once a week or two.
He mentioned to me last night that it's b/c he never has his "alone time" anymore. That I'm always at the house when he's here. And that not masturbating has caused him to not want it anymore. He said that "I" get my alone time and it's not fair.
At our last place, I worked PT at a retail store. I found out he was coming home at lunch while I was working to take care of business. It wouldn't have bothered me...except I worked in the next building and he'd stop by to see me when I worked. That stopped. My coworkers would ask where he was at. His coworkers would come by and ask where he was.
Him having his alone time didn't really increase the frequency either. He still didn't initiate. I found out that he watched porn in the bathroom one night while I was at home...that hurt the most that he'd rather do that alone than come to me.
I mentioned that maybe I should start going out (to the gym or fitness classes) so he can be alone. I can't go shopping as the stores here close early. I have one GF but she lives far away and we only see each other during the day every couple of weeks. Part of me wants to give him his alone time but I'm not sure if it will help. Is this normal? Does a guy lose his drive if he's not masturbating?
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