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I'm a 20 year old guy and she is my first girlfriend. Without being horrible to my family they are a little 'odd'. It just seems difficult because I've never had a gf before so I don't know how they react but I can almost imagine it from knowing them so well:
- They are very judgemental so they'll constantly be thinking about it. I wish it wasn't a big deal to them as it has nothing to do with them but they'll probably be thinking about it/have it in their heads that I am in a relationship all day for ages.
- They aren't good with sensitive subjects. For example they'd never give me the 'sex talk'.
- My family are VERY anti social - My dad literally goes to work monday-friday and that's it (doesn't have friends), my brother has aspergers so he has no friends and will be thinking about me having a girlfriend constantly as that's his personality (he sits in his room playing games all day combined with over-thinking/worrying over every detail - if i ever brought her to my house he'd panic that I would have sex with her in the room next to it.... I wouldn't have sex in my family house anyway). My other brother does have friends at school but he has never brought anyone round to our house before and never goes to other friend's houses. Basically my house has never had a visitor - no one has friends so if someone came round it is AWKWARD. They don't know how to behave/react. Especially at dinner when there true weirdness comes out they don't know how to be normal/social and there's an awkward silence. Any conversation that does take place you can just tell each person is weig hing up whether they should say it and thinking wayyyy too much before speaking. Eg they'll think 'is this weird to say' before opening their mouths. My mum also has an 'overthinking' and worrying personality as she cares too much for me.
- As I said it's hard because i don't bring people round to my house and nor does the rest of my family who do not have friends. Neither of my brother's have had girlfriends (or friends for that matter), nor do they talk about girls, dating, sex or anything related. Also since it is my first girlfriend it is hard for me to tell them.
I was considering texting my mum about something then casually just mentioning it in there. For example 'I'm probably coming back from University on Monday. Also do I have white/black formal attire for Alex's birthday on the 14th. I'm not drinking as I've got training for my job on the 15th. Also just thought I'd mention I have a girlfriend now'.
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