Can someone define it for me?
You can't have a conversation on controversial subjects such as the importance of looks or money in dating, in any forum really not just TSR, without it being derailed by cries that "personality matters more than looks [or insert some other superficial metric]".
Well I've searched for the meaning of a "good personality" far and wide. I've asked my friends. I've Googled for it. Yet I still can't find a useful definition of just what is a good personality.
Note: my criteria for defining a "good personality" requires it to explain how a "good personality" helps people form sexual relationships. That is, since we're talking about relationships that go beyond a platonic nature then in this context a good personality would have to be one that somehow aides the formation of these relationships, it can't simply be about making friends. No one is saying a good personality won't help you make friends.
This is leaving me to suspect when people mention a good personality they generally mean a collection of affable and cooperative traits that might make a relationship more enjoyable. It will also help you make friends. It however won't help you attract that hottie in the bar, or that girl you like in the back row of the lecture threatre. So why do some (most?) suggest a "good personality" is some kind of magic bullet more powerful than a beautiful face or a big bank balance?
I get it: we like to mollycoddle those who ask for advice and seem sad, but surely no advice is better than bad advice?
You can't open a single relationship based thread where someone who struggles with dating is not told to "work on their personality" (translation: it's not your looks, it's who you are that is the problem.)or worse still to "increase their confidence".
These people would have been so much better off if they had of taken tangible action: got a better style/fashion, gone to the gym, fixed their skin texture/got a tan, got a car or a better job etc. All these things are possible in the time many spend mulling over how to "improve" vague, intangible metrics like confidence or personality in a visually driven, shallow world like ours.
Put the internet to work for you.
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