For those men out there that managed to reconcile with your WAW, how did you do it? What sparked you to want to?
If your wife left for the usual reasons of feeling unappreciated and unwanted, but NO OM, how did you learn to start listening to her? How long did your reconciliation process take?
My husband and I broke up 6 weeks ago, separated for 4. He told me when I moved out that he would do everything he could to be the man he knew I needed him to be. That he had taken me for granted and absolutely was willing to try anything to get me back. To note, he suffers from anxiety/depression which he's never gotten help for other than popping some pills. So in 6 weeks the only thing he's done is go see a psychiatrist for a 1 hour session. He hasn't started the exercise program he keeps talking about (I've heard about this for years, there's always an excuse). He hasn't set up our MC (the one thing I asked him to do - note that he is very beta, I do pretty much everything in our relationship - the finances, the social life, the trip planning, meal planning, etc). When we talk and I ask him what HE wants, he just parrots backs things that Ive said I want in the relationship. He still isn't opening up. Maybe he's just that type of guy - the type who has not idea or desire to talk about his feelings?
I regret leaving without trying my own IC first and maybe convincing him to go with me (he had refused whenever I raised the issue in the past).
I accept responsibility for my part in being non confrontational and non communicative and not trying harder, earlier.
At this point, I've lost all sexual interest in him (and I've always had the higher sex drive) so I find that very frustrating. I need to see him step up and take charge - of his own health, of showing signs that he wants to woo me back, etc. I truly think that would resurrect my desire for him again.
So I'm in limbo now - waiting on him. In the meantime I'm getting out more- on my own, and have lost 10 lbs in my exercise program. I'm not sure what else to do. This week if I don't hear from him I will set up my own IC. I can't wait any longer for him to come around...HELP
If your wife left for the usual reasons of feeling unappreciated and unwanted, but NO OM, how did you learn to start listening to her? How long did your reconciliation process take?
My husband and I broke up 6 weeks ago, separated for 4. He told me when I moved out that he would do everything he could to be the man he knew I needed him to be. That he had taken me for granted and absolutely was willing to try anything to get me back. To note, he suffers from anxiety/depression which he's never gotten help for other than popping some pills. So in 6 weeks the only thing he's done is go see a psychiatrist for a 1 hour session. He hasn't started the exercise program he keeps talking about (I've heard about this for years, there's always an excuse). He hasn't set up our MC (the one thing I asked him to do - note that he is very beta, I do pretty much everything in our relationship - the finances, the social life, the trip planning, meal planning, etc). When we talk and I ask him what HE wants, he just parrots backs things that Ive said I want in the relationship. He still isn't opening up. Maybe he's just that type of guy - the type who has not idea or desire to talk about his feelings?
I regret leaving without trying my own IC first and maybe convincing him to go with me (he had refused whenever I raised the issue in the past).
I accept responsibility for my part in being non confrontational and non communicative and not trying harder, earlier.
At this point, I've lost all sexual interest in him (and I've always had the higher sex drive) so I find that very frustrating. I need to see him step up and take charge - of his own health, of showing signs that he wants to woo me back, etc. I truly think that would resurrect my desire for him again.
So I'm in limbo now - waiting on him. In the meantime I'm getting out more- on my own, and have lost 10 lbs in my exercise program. I'm not sure what else to do. This week if I don't hear from him I will set up my own IC. I can't wait any longer for him to come around...HELP
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