Hey all-
I'm sure this topic has beaten to death but my situation is a bit different. My best friend is a male (I'm a female) and we have known eachother literally since I came home from the hospital. Our moms were best friends and we were 9 days apart in age so we were raised very much like family. We had a lot of shared parties, camping trips, etc throughout the years.
I have been married to my wonderful husband about a year and a half (together about 3 and a half years) and he is also friends with my best friend. They had a rocky start to their friendship but get along okay now. So sometimes we hang out as a group, sometimes just me and my friend.
This has never been and issue and to be honest I've never given it any thought. My friend has been a part of my life and family for so long that I've never questioned the whole "opposite gender friendship" thing. Lately I've been getting questions though - "You're husbands okay with that? Doesn't he get jealous?", etc. I haven't paid it too much though but now my friend won free tickets to a concert and asked me to go with him. I asked my husband to verify we didn't have any plans first and said sure why not. But now I'm thinking to myself... are people silently judging thinking I'm acting inappropriately or cheating on my husband or something? I can't think of a more platonic friendship - he's more like a brother than a friend. So what's the problem? Am I missing something?
Additionally, my husband has several close female friends. Some I like, some I don't. However, I don't think anything of it if he wants to hang out with them.
Thanks!
I'm sure this topic has beaten to death but my situation is a bit different. My best friend is a male (I'm a female) and we have known eachother literally since I came home from the hospital. Our moms were best friends and we were 9 days apart in age so we were raised very much like family. We had a lot of shared parties, camping trips, etc throughout the years.
I have been married to my wonderful husband about a year and a half (together about 3 and a half years) and he is also friends with my best friend. They had a rocky start to their friendship but get along okay now. So sometimes we hang out as a group, sometimes just me and my friend.
This has never been and issue and to be honest I've never given it any thought. My friend has been a part of my life and family for so long that I've never questioned the whole "opposite gender friendship" thing. Lately I've been getting questions though - "You're husbands okay with that? Doesn't he get jealous?", etc. I haven't paid it too much though but now my friend won free tickets to a concert and asked me to go with him. I asked my husband to verify we didn't have any plans first and said sure why not. But now I'm thinking to myself... are people silently judging thinking I'm acting inappropriately or cheating on my husband or something? I can't think of a more platonic friendship - he's more like a brother than a friend. So what's the problem? Am I missing something?
Additionally, my husband has several close female friends. Some I like, some I don't. However, I don't think anything of it if he wants to hang out with them.
Thanks!
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