I've been struggling lately to make a huge personal decision. Some might have read my story already, but I was married for nearly 5 years. Unfortunately my wife confessed to having ulterior motives for marrying me and decided to part ways, come back, then ultimately leave forever. All while being really horrible to me during the last 2 years.
It's been a year since I've seen her, and almost a year since I made contact with her.
Now, I have hundreds of pictures and several videos. A few anniversary letters (the latter I parted with already). I'm having trouble making a decision. Before I continue I want to clarify, I have not looked at any pictures of videos of her since we last made contact almost a year ago. That being said, I think I need to let go of every picture and video I have of us, including our wedding, for the sake of truly starting over. However, while I don't feel any emotional attachment towards my ex-wife anymore, I value these items.
They represent a part of my life. While my marriage turned out to be a sham, my feelings for her were very real. Family members that are no longer with me are in these media. My father will never get to see me kissing my bride again. But He, like other relatives that passed away are alive in my memories and in these pictures.
Do you guys think its ok to keep them? Or is this just simply a remnant of being addicted to a Borderline ex?
If I marry someone ever again, will it be offensive to them that I've kept a past life locked away in a box?
The obvious question would be... If you're never going to open it... why keep it?
Well, one day I hope to be able to show my children and grandchildren the complete story of my life.
Any thoughts?
It's been a year since I've seen her, and almost a year since I made contact with her.
Now, I have hundreds of pictures and several videos. A few anniversary letters (the latter I parted with already). I'm having trouble making a decision. Before I continue I want to clarify, I have not looked at any pictures of videos of her since we last made contact almost a year ago. That being said, I think I need to let go of every picture and video I have of us, including our wedding, for the sake of truly starting over. However, while I don't feel any emotional attachment towards my ex-wife anymore, I value these items.
They represent a part of my life. While my marriage turned out to be a sham, my feelings for her were very real. Family members that are no longer with me are in these media. My father will never get to see me kissing my bride again. But He, like other relatives that passed away are alive in my memories and in these pictures.
Do you guys think its ok to keep them? Or is this just simply a remnant of being addicted to a Borderline ex?
If I marry someone ever again, will it be offensive to them that I've kept a past life locked away in a box?
The obvious question would be... If you're never going to open it... why keep it?
Well, one day I hope to be able to show my children and grandchildren the complete story of my life.
Any thoughts?
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