So the sad thing about this, is that we have only been married 5 months and are going through some real issues.
To start, I am new to this forum and look forward and welcome all advice because I want to save this marriage and with everything we're going through I feel like there may only be one ending and I don't want it to get there.
The issues we have been going through...
1. The dog -- She has a dog that she had when we started dating but I never really knew how bad it'd be till it moved in with us. The problem is that the dog is spoiled ROTTEN with her and her parents and she could pee or poop somewhere and she is not scolded which will not teach the dog anything. The reason why this is causing an issue, well I'd like to make improvements to our house but I refuse to if the dog is just going to damage it. I have talked with the wife about this before, if that were the case either the dog would stay with her parents or need to get better and the wife needs to learn how to discipline. I did once say, "if you can't scold a dog, how can you discipline a child?"
2. Our Sex life -- Honestly, it's been over a month since we have had sex and I can't begin to tell you why. At first when we were dating we saw each other on the weekends since we lived an hour apart and we never had a problem having sex. We had sex once to twice a weekend and now I'm lucky to get it once a month. I just don't get why.. if she finds me unattractive.. if she finds no need for it.. I have an average sex drive and she has a low sex drive(or at least that is what she is saying now) but I don't believe that is the true excuse because something is off but she won't come forward with it.
3. Financials -- With her recently graduating college within the last month I have been paying the expenses which I didn't have a problem with assuming that she would look for a full time job. The fact that she hasn't began looking for a full time job is causing issues as well and it's came up multiple times. I already came from the cities and moved to the country for HER so I pay probably double the amount I would for gas a week. To pay the mortgage and just about everything else adds stress. I had to bring it among myself to get a part time job to make up for the income we are losing by her only working part time.
4. Her changing her last name -- Does anything else really need to be said? It's been 5 months and she has yet to change her last name. Which leads me to believe she really doesn't want to. She has mentioned numerous times that she will be going to the city office to change it, but something always comes up and she doesn't follow through with it. The thing is with this, taxes are coming up and I need her to change her name so we can file our taxes and I refuse to let her hold me back. It's very frustration!
Those are the main issues... I would appreciate and like I mentioned before, welcome all advice!
Thank you!
Jeremy
To start, I am new to this forum and look forward and welcome all advice because I want to save this marriage and with everything we're going through I feel like there may only be one ending and I don't want it to get there.
The issues we have been going through...
1. The dog -- She has a dog that she had when we started dating but I never really knew how bad it'd be till it moved in with us. The problem is that the dog is spoiled ROTTEN with her and her parents and she could pee or poop somewhere and she is not scolded which will not teach the dog anything. The reason why this is causing an issue, well I'd like to make improvements to our house but I refuse to if the dog is just going to damage it. I have talked with the wife about this before, if that were the case either the dog would stay with her parents or need to get better and the wife needs to learn how to discipline. I did once say, "if you can't scold a dog, how can you discipline a child?"
2. Our Sex life -- Honestly, it's been over a month since we have had sex and I can't begin to tell you why. At first when we were dating we saw each other on the weekends since we lived an hour apart and we never had a problem having sex. We had sex once to twice a weekend and now I'm lucky to get it once a month. I just don't get why.. if she finds me unattractive.. if she finds no need for it.. I have an average sex drive and she has a low sex drive(or at least that is what she is saying now) but I don't believe that is the true excuse because something is off but she won't come forward with it.
3. Financials -- With her recently graduating college within the last month I have been paying the expenses which I didn't have a problem with assuming that she would look for a full time job. The fact that she hasn't began looking for a full time job is causing issues as well and it's came up multiple times. I already came from the cities and moved to the country for HER so I pay probably double the amount I would for gas a week. To pay the mortgage and just about everything else adds stress. I had to bring it among myself to get a part time job to make up for the income we are losing by her only working part time.
4. Her changing her last name -- Does anything else really need to be said? It's been 5 months and she has yet to change her last name. Which leads me to believe she really doesn't want to. She has mentioned numerous times that she will be going to the city office to change it, but something always comes up and she doesn't follow through with it. The thing is with this, taxes are coming up and I need her to change her name so we can file our taxes and I refuse to let her hold me back. It's very frustration!
Those are the main issues... I would appreciate and like I mentioned before, welcome all advice!
Thank you!
Jeremy
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