I have been married 32 years. My husband for the last 12 years or so has been travelling to Bangkok twice a year for business. Although I admit that some doubts did arise I felt that my trust of 32 years was valid. Last November we were working on his computer and some explicit photos appeared - I raised my eye and he said someone had sent them to him. I'm not proud of myself but when the opportunity arose I searched his computer and I discovered photos of him with a girl in her mid 30s which looked like they were sightseeing and the more explicit photos of the same girl. I confronted him a few days later as to why the photos were sent to him and he told me a guy in a bar sent them to him. I then asked why he was in some of the photos with the same girl. He immediately broke down and said that it was just a few days back on his March visit with this girl where he'd spent days out with her and had sex. I was devastated. He begged me that on his next visit in October that he told her he was married and could not continue and could we start again and he also begged me not to tell our 2 adult sons.
We went to counselling , which he willingly attended, and he vas very upset to witness my distress and at each session admitted it was all his fault and he would do whatever it took to make it right. I struggled through Christmas and new year and was in a real dilemma whether to make another go of it though was erring on the side of trying again. During this period we were sleeping apart. Ten days later, and again not very proud of myself, I checked his computer and found another photo - I worked out he had another email account and managed to acquire the password. There I found a string of emails and more photos of this girl and how he was missing her and would soon be booking his next trip over there. I flipped out and threw him out and now our two sons know and were devastated also.
Forward on 2 weeks and we have yet to talk - my eldest son went to see him last night and was shocked at how ill he looked and he was concerned for his welfare. We are meeting early next week for our first discussion and I am so confused. I have always been the person who agrees to keep the peace and not hurt anyone so how am I going to face the man I have loved for 32 years. I'm very worried he won't cope. I am so confused about ending 32 years and even more so about being on my own. I really don't know what to do.
We went to counselling , which he willingly attended, and he vas very upset to witness my distress and at each session admitted it was all his fault and he would do whatever it took to make it right. I struggled through Christmas and new year and was in a real dilemma whether to make another go of it though was erring on the side of trying again. During this period we were sleeping apart. Ten days later, and again not very proud of myself, I checked his computer and found another photo - I worked out he had another email account and managed to acquire the password. There I found a string of emails and more photos of this girl and how he was missing her and would soon be booking his next trip over there. I flipped out and threw him out and now our two sons know and were devastated also.
Forward on 2 weeks and we have yet to talk - my eldest son went to see him last night and was shocked at how ill he looked and he was concerned for his welfare. We are meeting early next week for our first discussion and I am so confused. I have always been the person who agrees to keep the peace and not hurt anyone so how am I going to face the man I have loved for 32 years. I'm very worried he won't cope. I am so confused about ending 32 years and even more so about being on my own. I really don't know what to do.
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