I posted a couple of months ago about a friendship that my husband was hiding from me that didn't sit right. Everyone said that he was cheating on me, and while part of me knew I wasn't willing to listen. I've done a lot of snooping since then and I thought I would share some of the things I learned. My husband did all of his cheating from his mobile phone so your mileage may vary.
I got lucky since my husband only used about 3 different passwords for anything that wasn't super important, like our banking website. I was able to get them off of his computer with a program that reads all of your saved passwords on IE. I don't remember the name of the one I used but there are a ton of them if you Google it.
Email - Most people don't realize that any email you send from your cell phone on AOL, Outlook, and Yahoo are automatically copied to the Sent folder. You can't even see the folder on the mobile version, you have to go the full site to see it. Check not only the inbox but the spam folder. That's where I found things like a secret tumblr account he shared with one of his women. Access to the email account is crucial to resetting other passwords you may not have.
Phone bill - The detailed phone bill is essential. Any number that pops up a lot that you don't recognize plug into Facebook to see if it's attached to someone's account. If that doesn't work Spy Dialer will dial their voice mail and allow you to listen to it on your computer. Their look up is pretty accurate as well if they don't have a personalized greeting. AT&T only shows you the last 18 months for usage but you can go into their store and get any month printed up for as along as you have had an account with them for $5.
IMs - Yahoo Messenger archives every conversation, mobile or computer, unless the actually archive is deleted. I was able to see conversations going back 4 years. You can also be logged in on the computer at the same time as a mobile account. This lets you watch conversations in real time. You can download the archive into a text file for later reading.
Skype doesn't archive conversations as far as I could see but it does show you who he was recently talking to.
WhatsApp archives everything for the last few days. Simply delete the app from their phone and reinstall it. It will automatically load the last back up. I didn't get to try this one because I never got access to my husband's phone.
Line is trickier. You can log into a mobile device and a computer at the same time but the newest update sends a message to the mobile device telling them. You can only disable that if you have access to the phone. You can download their archive as a text file but if it is deleted on the mobile end it disappears on the computer as well.
PayPal - This is where my husband would spend money so I couldn't see what was happening. Most of the transfers would show up on our bank statement as PAYPALSI66 and he would tell me it was for paintball equipment or something to that effect. While you can only print statements for the last 3 months, the account history page has the history for the entire account. Just change the dates to when you want to see. Newer transactions even include invoices so you can see what exactly was purchased, not just where.
Facebook - You can be logged into the same account in multiple places. I was able to log into his Facebook account while he was using it and watch in real time as he spoke to the other woman. Take screen shots, once it's deleted the conversation is gone forever. I also found it useful to go the search bar and put up a random letter to see who he was searching for.
Google - Here is where I was actually able to confirm everything I thought to be true. My husband has an Android phone so I'm not sure this will work with iPhone. Google saves everything, you tube searches, safari searches, map searches, and the most important of all, location history. Sign into anything Google and under account you will find account history. I was able to see the days he told me he was going to work and was actually at her house all day.
It took a lot of patience but I was able to find out more information from my computer than I thought. When I couldn't figure out a password I would reset to one of his more commonly used ones hoping he would think that he just forgot it. It was a lot of fun changing every single password before I left.
I hope by sharing what I learned I can save someone a little bit of the frustration I went through.
I got lucky since my husband only used about 3 different passwords for anything that wasn't super important, like our banking website. I was able to get them off of his computer with a program that reads all of your saved passwords on IE. I don't remember the name of the one I used but there are a ton of them if you Google it.
Email - Most people don't realize that any email you send from your cell phone on AOL, Outlook, and Yahoo are automatically copied to the Sent folder. You can't even see the folder on the mobile version, you have to go the full site to see it. Check not only the inbox but the spam folder. That's where I found things like a secret tumblr account he shared with one of his women. Access to the email account is crucial to resetting other passwords you may not have.
Phone bill - The detailed phone bill is essential. Any number that pops up a lot that you don't recognize plug into Facebook to see if it's attached to someone's account. If that doesn't work Spy Dialer will dial their voice mail and allow you to listen to it on your computer. Their look up is pretty accurate as well if they don't have a personalized greeting. AT&T only shows you the last 18 months for usage but you can go into their store and get any month printed up for as along as you have had an account with them for $5.
IMs - Yahoo Messenger archives every conversation, mobile or computer, unless the actually archive is deleted. I was able to see conversations going back 4 years. You can also be logged in on the computer at the same time as a mobile account. This lets you watch conversations in real time. You can download the archive into a text file for later reading.
Skype doesn't archive conversations as far as I could see but it does show you who he was recently talking to.
WhatsApp archives everything for the last few days. Simply delete the app from their phone and reinstall it. It will automatically load the last back up. I didn't get to try this one because I never got access to my husband's phone.
Line is trickier. You can log into a mobile device and a computer at the same time but the newest update sends a message to the mobile device telling them. You can only disable that if you have access to the phone. You can download their archive as a text file but if it is deleted on the mobile end it disappears on the computer as well.
PayPal - This is where my husband would spend money so I couldn't see what was happening. Most of the transfers would show up on our bank statement as PAYPALSI66 and he would tell me it was for paintball equipment or something to that effect. While you can only print statements for the last 3 months, the account history page has the history for the entire account. Just change the dates to when you want to see. Newer transactions even include invoices so you can see what exactly was purchased, not just where.
Facebook - You can be logged into the same account in multiple places. I was able to log into his Facebook account while he was using it and watch in real time as he spoke to the other woman. Take screen shots, once it's deleted the conversation is gone forever. I also found it useful to go the search bar and put up a random letter to see who he was searching for.
Google - Here is where I was actually able to confirm everything I thought to be true. My husband has an Android phone so I'm not sure this will work with iPhone. Google saves everything, you tube searches, safari searches, map searches, and the most important of all, location history. Sign into anything Google and under account you will find account history. I was able to see the days he told me he was going to work and was actually at her house all day.
It took a lot of patience but I was able to find out more information from my computer than I thought. When I couldn't figure out a password I would reset to one of his more commonly used ones hoping he would think that he just forgot it. It was a lot of fun changing every single password before I left.
I hope by sharing what I learned I can save someone a little bit of the frustration I went through.
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