My basic question is:
a guy that things were in the very early stages with but had been intensely pursuing me and texting me every day, has very suddenly stopped contacting me. I know he has exams coming up this week and has been stressing about them for ages but I'm not sure if thats it. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt and wait it out or assume he's no longer interested and move on?
More long and vent-y back story for any one who can be bothered:
So back in May, my friend introduced me to one of her friends and we had what I thought was a drunken one night stand. However, he messaged me the next day and we were talking for a while before hooking up again at a friend's birthday which was pretty much pre-arranged. He lives down South and I'm up in Yorkshire so limited opportunities to see each other, especially as he went away for three weeks in the interim.
After that he was texting me literally every day and we had loads of really good long conversations. I went down to see him and we had a great weekend where although we didn't really have 'the talk' or anything, he said it wasn't just sex, he really liked me a lot and that we'd definitely see each other again after his exams in September. This was all unprompted and he volunteered it himself. We agreed our next mutually free weekend was the end of Sept and we agreed to see each other then (this was early August so I appreciate looong frustrating gaps).
We kept texting for the next couple of weeks. He would always text me first, kept making references to how he just wanted to sack off the revision and drive up North to see me. I didn't hear from him one Wednesday which I thought was mildly unusual but didn't give it a second thought. Then I caught a horrible chest infection and was out of it for a week. When I got better, I realised a week had gone by and he hadn't text me at all. I messaged him to see how he was and he eventually replied saying he'd done terribly on a practice test and has been knuckling down with the revision and asking me how work was going. I replied, he asked a follow up question to which I replied again and I have heard nothing since which was two weeks and a half weeks ago. We whatsapp rather than texting so I know he'd been online but it was taking ages to get those boring replies out of him. It definitely felt like he just didn't want to talk to me so I haven't tried texting him since.
I would 100% normally just think he's an idiot and move on but I really liked this guy so there's a little bit of me that's still hoping that maybe he just didn't want me as a distraction while his exams are going on and that he'll get back in touch when they're done. Although I accept is it pathetic to think that because generally when a guy doesn't text you for three weeks, they're just not that into you. I don't know, should I abandon all hope? It was such a dramatic 180 turn if he has gone off me, I don't know what to think.
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