I went out with this boy who never asked me to be his girlfriend but assumed we could have PDA after confessing he did like me. Had a heated exchange with him two weekends ago about some inconsistencies i didn't feel added up about him in our LINE conversation; he in turn said that he himself was trying his hardest to overlook my flaws when i pointed out none of his except what i did not see would add up about what he was saying.Spoiler:ShowHe complained he wished he was that lucky that even if he zoned out the way i did someone would still be there for him. I'm not sure whether i should take this as a guilt trip for neglecting him, or excuse him as he has very few friends? I don't feel it is normal to talk to people all the time and ask them if everything's okay the minute they pause to enjoy the journey and stop talking to you.
But after talking over the phone i told him we could be friends if he would like that upon hearing he thought i was actually his girlfriend that week. He later decided to text me, after i did not pick up his call having some questions to ask me about, to delete his number as he would be deleting mine. I gave no reply; respecting his decision.
Three days later he rang up one of my friends to talk about me and to get my number from. Texting me four long messages which ended with stating how i owed him some money from a taxi fare. I agreed to get him something in return for that.
We agreed to meet up to continue going to an event, together with my mother, actually (who thankfully for him could not go in the end). Yesterday, he wasn't there when i reached the place just on time and so decided to ask where he was. He replied : "At home. Leaving the house soon." I let him know i'd go there first to get seats. He made no apology when i met him at all, was pretty arrogant about it even, and walked blatantly further and further away from me when together. It did hurt my feelings. I tried the same for awhile to feel a little bit better.
Later when sitting down in a public place he started talking to me about other girls and said there was a scientific reason for me finding him talkative (spoiler reference). I nodded for him to continue and he said it was because our love language was different. Identified all 5 kinds of them. And finally, showed me a bible verse on Love. In our conversations he was fond of using a bible verse to support the preferential treatment he wished to receive from me, but this time he highlighted the parts on what Love was not. I somehow took it as an attack on my personality or at least me being not good enough, shifted away from him a little bit, and let him know when he asked that i was angry and wanted to go home. I decided to download the app he asked me to get (QR code app) too, which i had no idea how to use, stupidly thinking there was something on it he wanted to show me as he was scanning the area with it. He proceeded to take my phone once it was downloaded. When he return ed it to me, to my surprise, i found he had deleted every single one of our LINE message exchange. I said "thank you for deleting all my messages" and angrily walked off. He ran after me saying things like "you're better than this" and "this isn't you", when i don't exactly feel i had done anything wrong. He tried to justify his actions saying he didn't want me to feel negatively about what happened in our past relationship and that he was always honest with me, had done nothing wrong and literally demanded i forgive him because i must(????). I told him that it'd happen in my own time and this wasn't the way you talk to people you hardly know as it was within my rights to get upset about people going through my messages to delete things without my permission. He followed me anyway to the restaurant he planned to eat at as the treat for the money i owed him and did not say thank you. He told me he would have preferred pasta but sought the cheapest thing on the menu. It was ac tually the second time i paid for his meal, said nothing about the first as it wasn't a big deal that he did not have enough of the right currency. But furthermore, my mother has also been paying for his meal on two occasions so should i still owe him money? Before we parted, he asked me to text him, and that he would no longer be going so early with me the next time we meet before. I am more annoyed than hurt, to be honest, at first i thought he was a fairly nice, attentive guy.
How should i address this, and what is going on with him?
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