So DH and I newly married. Sexless. You hear a lot of people talking about HD and LD. I was never LD a day in my life. I had just lost respect for him. He was completely careless of my feelings and was lazy. I did ALL the housework. All the financials, including responding to overdrafts from his reckless spending. He did not spend time with me, preferring video games or his workshop.
When we were first dating, he was romantic, attentive, clever, wonderful. Now he wants to play video games all night. When we moved in together it started. I thought, we will discuss it. We will work through it.
I would talk to him, talk to him, talk to him. He did not want to change. So he ignored me.
After 2 years of nothing, I thought do I really want to live the rest of my life, have children with THIS? Lucky for us I had my epiphany before kids!
I did not stop having sex with him to punish him! I stopped having sex with him because I wanted to have sex with a MAN, not some irresponsible little boy who wants me to do everything.
He started with the why aren't we having sex, we never have sex whiny stuff you see here. I told him. And here is where he differed from what I see all the time is that he listened. I don't know what affects these wives' ability to respect their man. But that is what it is about. And DH saw that his actions were affecting my ability to respect him AS A MAN. He also was able, without defensiveness, to BE the kind of man I could respect.
And he did it!
When we were first dating, he was romantic, attentive, clever, wonderful. Now he wants to play video games all night. When we moved in together it started. I thought, we will discuss it. We will work through it.
I would talk to him, talk to him, talk to him. He did not want to change. So he ignored me.
After 2 years of nothing, I thought do I really want to live the rest of my life, have children with THIS? Lucky for us I had my epiphany before kids!
I did not stop having sex with him to punish him! I stopped having sex with him because I wanted to have sex with a MAN, not some irresponsible little boy who wants me to do everything.
He started with the why aren't we having sex, we never have sex whiny stuff you see here. I told him. And here is where he differed from what I see all the time is that he listened. I don't know what affects these wives' ability to respect their man. But that is what it is about. And DH saw that his actions were affecting my ability to respect him AS A MAN. He also was able, without defensiveness, to BE the kind of man I could respect.
And he did it!
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