I am so sad and I really should not be. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and we have been together for 4 years. what a bad relationship this has been.
let's start with his infidelities. This man has been cheating on me with the same woman throughout our entire existence together. I found out about this woman 6 months before our marriage but I didn't have enough proof to actually pin something on him. even though my heart and my gut knew what the truth was. Caught him again months after our wedding and again after 5 months. everything was quiet for about a little over a year and then here she comes again and i found out that things had never ended between them. I forgave him for all of this and then I found out just recently that he had still been seeing her. i tried to forgive again but I just could not. My heart was so broken and it was not like he was doing anything to help me heal.
In addition to all of this, this man was so stingy to me that it was ridiculous. All he paid was the rent and he could even pay that on time. I can't even get an apartment anywhere else now because of this. We have received so many eviction notices that I can't even keep count. and all he can say is, "late is better than none." He would not help me with any of the other bills around the house so it left me in a financial bind. he knew what this was doing to me but he still would not help. i had to take out several loans just to keep afloat. He purchased a few things for me and i'm grateful but he would never help me with anything. i gave this man everything that he could ask for in a woman. When he didn't have it, i made sure he had it. but i was going broke in the process. i was doing well before he came into the picture because i had two jobs and between the two i was making a hefty penny. however, that second job was exhausting me to the end. so he said that i can let it go and he would help out more. that never ever happened.
still staying with him through all of this in addition to his horrible attitude toward things had me feeling lower than low.
when i recently found out about this woman again our relationship really took a turn for the worst and he just couldn't for the life of him understand what i was going through so we eventually broke up. we have been broken up now for about 5 weeks and it has been he!!. we tried reconciling but each time something else came up.
the first time we tried he became furious with me because of his credit. while we were not together he used my credit card to make some purchases without me knowing. I found out about these charges and called my bank to let them know that I did not authorize any of these charges. they refunded my money and that was the end of that. he comes to me in a rage saying that now he is being accused of fraud, he's being investigated and he's now flagged with all three credit bureaus. i told him that this was not my fault!! i had no idea it was him. and honestly, i don't believe he had any intentions on telling me because he did that to me before with my checking account. so he stormed out of the house and never came home that night. now with all that he has done to me over the years and now he's accusing me of this had sent me into a rage. i made it so he could not contact me at all whatsoever for at least a week. that infuriated him!!
we finally spoke and he was saying that he wanted me to fix what i had done to him. i didn't do anything wrong to him!! so I ignored him and I kept ignoring him. He finally left it alone and started saying how he missed me and he wanted us to work and how he realized everything that he had done to me was wrong. he also, claimed that he realized how he allowed this other woman to ruin our marriage. I felt so soft and pink that i called him up at 6a and went to pick him up. Keep in mind that just the night before he was telling me how hurt that he was that we were not together in addition to all of his other texts saying how much he loved me and missed me.
Well, we did not even last a week. despite all his attempts to try and reconcile, i finally give in and it felt as if he changed his mind. he was treating me so cold. i never saw him until late at night or early in the morning when i was leaving out for work. no intimacy or affection whatsoever!! i talked to him about it twice and he said that he is so busy and he was so moved by the fact that he could not reach me for a whole week that he's having problems accepting me. he said that he knew that he'd eventually get over it but he's having a hard time. finally i couldnt take it anymore and stop saying anything to him about it and i decided to just let him be. when i did that, he had a sudden change of heart and was telling me how sorry he was and that he wanted us to work. i decided not to fall for it because it was always like this with him. too much up and down and each time we would break up in the past, we'd get back together but he would never show that anything has cha nged.
let's start with his infidelities. This man has been cheating on me with the same woman throughout our entire existence together. I found out about this woman 6 months before our marriage but I didn't have enough proof to actually pin something on him. even though my heart and my gut knew what the truth was. Caught him again months after our wedding and again after 5 months. everything was quiet for about a little over a year and then here she comes again and i found out that things had never ended between them. I forgave him for all of this and then I found out just recently that he had still been seeing her. i tried to forgive again but I just could not. My heart was so broken and it was not like he was doing anything to help me heal.
In addition to all of this, this man was so stingy to me that it was ridiculous. All he paid was the rent and he could even pay that on time. I can't even get an apartment anywhere else now because of this. We have received so many eviction notices that I can't even keep count. and all he can say is, "late is better than none." He would not help me with any of the other bills around the house so it left me in a financial bind. he knew what this was doing to me but he still would not help. i had to take out several loans just to keep afloat. He purchased a few things for me and i'm grateful but he would never help me with anything. i gave this man everything that he could ask for in a woman. When he didn't have it, i made sure he had it. but i was going broke in the process. i was doing well before he came into the picture because i had two jobs and between the two i was making a hefty penny. however, that second job was exhausting me to the end. so he said that i can let it go and he would help out more. that never ever happened.
still staying with him through all of this in addition to his horrible attitude toward things had me feeling lower than low.
when i recently found out about this woman again our relationship really took a turn for the worst and he just couldn't for the life of him understand what i was going through so we eventually broke up. we have been broken up now for about 5 weeks and it has been he!!. we tried reconciling but each time something else came up.
the first time we tried he became furious with me because of his credit. while we were not together he used my credit card to make some purchases without me knowing. I found out about these charges and called my bank to let them know that I did not authorize any of these charges. they refunded my money and that was the end of that. he comes to me in a rage saying that now he is being accused of fraud, he's being investigated and he's now flagged with all three credit bureaus. i told him that this was not my fault!! i had no idea it was him. and honestly, i don't believe he had any intentions on telling me because he did that to me before with my checking account. so he stormed out of the house and never came home that night. now with all that he has done to me over the years and now he's accusing me of this had sent me into a rage. i made it so he could not contact me at all whatsoever for at least a week. that infuriated him!!
we finally spoke and he was saying that he wanted me to fix what i had done to him. i didn't do anything wrong to him!! so I ignored him and I kept ignoring him. He finally left it alone and started saying how he missed me and he wanted us to work and how he realized everything that he had done to me was wrong. he also, claimed that he realized how he allowed this other woman to ruin our marriage. I felt so soft and pink that i called him up at 6a and went to pick him up. Keep in mind that just the night before he was telling me how hurt that he was that we were not together in addition to all of his other texts saying how much he loved me and missed me.
Well, we did not even last a week. despite all his attempts to try and reconcile, i finally give in and it felt as if he changed his mind. he was treating me so cold. i never saw him until late at night or early in the morning when i was leaving out for work. no intimacy or affection whatsoever!! i talked to him about it twice and he said that he is so busy and he was so moved by the fact that he could not reach me for a whole week that he's having problems accepting me. he said that he knew that he'd eventually get over it but he's having a hard time. finally i couldnt take it anymore and stop saying anything to him about it and i decided to just let him be. when i did that, he had a sudden change of heart and was telling me how sorry he was and that he wanted us to work. i decided not to fall for it because it was always like this with him. too much up and down and each time we would break up in the past, we'd get back together but he would never show that anything has cha nged.
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