My friends took their annual anniversary vacation this week. While there, the H suddenly and traumatically died, the day after their anniversary.
I haven't been as physically close (seeing them often etc) as I had been, neither had H, and that doesn't matter. It hurts, and I can't imagine the pain the W is feeling now. This was the last thing anyone in our circle of friends expected.
They're the best example of a happy marriage I've ever seen. I'm heartbroken for her. I'm also resolved to do every single thing I can to improve my marriage, as is H. It's hit us both hard. We've already done some work (edited to add: over the past few months), but had a brief talk today reminding ourselves why we became friends with this couple: we wanted what they have...a fantastic marriage.
I'd like to think H would be thrilled to know that his joy in life and overwhelming love, compassion and devotion to his wife was the example we are using to learn to be the same way ourselves.
We plan on doing whatever the W asks to support her right now, and always. My friends who are widows have offered some amazing insight and guidance today so that I don't step on toes or hurt feelings.
I'm so sad.
I haven't been as physically close (seeing them often etc) as I had been, neither had H, and that doesn't matter. It hurts, and I can't imagine the pain the W is feeling now. This was the last thing anyone in our circle of friends expected.
They're the best example of a happy marriage I've ever seen. I'm heartbroken for her. I'm also resolved to do every single thing I can to improve my marriage, as is H. It's hit us both hard. We've already done some work (edited to add: over the past few months), but had a brief talk today reminding ourselves why we became friends with this couple: we wanted what they have...a fantastic marriage.
I'd like to think H would be thrilled to know that his joy in life and overwhelming love, compassion and devotion to his wife was the example we are using to learn to be the same way ourselves.
We plan on doing whatever the W asks to support her right now, and always. My friends who are widows have offered some amazing insight and guidance today so that I don't step on toes or hurt feelings.
I'm so sad.
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