I'm curious if trying to blend older families is the norm.... My husband's father is going to be remarrying later this year. My husband's mother passed away 2 years ago, they were married for almost 50 years.... the fiance is also a widow. My husband and his siblings are all in their 40's, their father in his 70's.
Anyway, his father and fiance had both families for the holidays recently (all the kids, spouses and grandkids). It seemed rather forced, both families kept to themselves mostly, some polite mixing. It was kind of uncomfortable. These aren't the kinds of people you would find voluntarily mixing together, either, which probably doesn't help any.
There really isn't any blending in either of our families, it's a new experience. Something that was said leads us to believe they may want this to be the new norm.... Most information on blended families is more around blending younger families....Just curious to know if it's usual to try to blend older, well established families like this and this quickly ? Or is it more the norm for the couple to just split their time between their respective families ?
Anyway, his father and fiance had both families for the holidays recently (all the kids, spouses and grandkids). It seemed rather forced, both families kept to themselves mostly, some polite mixing. It was kind of uncomfortable. These aren't the kinds of people you would find voluntarily mixing together, either, which probably doesn't help any.
There really isn't any blending in either of our families, it's a new experience. Something that was said leads us to believe they may want this to be the new norm.... Most information on blended families is more around blending younger families....Just curious to know if it's usual to try to blend older, well established families like this and this quickly ? Or is it more the norm for the couple to just split their time between their respective families ?
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