From the delightful (now deleted thread) you could probably simplify to "Girls: having your own life and personality is overrated; subservience is the answer!"
I know a certain group of men love to push the myth around that ultimately, evolution wins and men want fair, young maidens who keep their mouths shut and other bodily appendages open on demand, cook them their meals, dress nicely and take good care of babies. If you do not fall into this mold, you will, most unfortunately, not bag yourself a man who has less respect for you than his wash flannel and die a lonely, old cat woman.
The thing is, I have yet to see any proof on this. Yes, there is proof that a number of men like youthful women, and breasts, and also that a pathological fear of women and insecurity/ emasculation is so common it's masked as "men liking submissive women." But where is any of the proof this makes for healthy, ideal, long-lasting relationships?
We don't have enough evidence from our current time to say it works out, and previous generations (as people often hail this being where the model comes from, and that we should return to it) only stayed together because divorce was bad. They often came to resent each other, though.
This isn't a formula to bag a husband. This is a formula to get certain men attracted to you, and keep their attention long enough that you will get them down the aisle and have their kids. From what I've seen, because the aforementioned men have so little respect for women as people in the first place, have a strong sense of entitlement and get bored quickly, they inevitably wind up having affairs, and the marriage fails. I've come across men like this, and they actually blame the woman for not being enough. It does not work out because a fundamental part of lasting relationships isn't there. It's based entirely on gender roles and perceptions of dominance/ submission - and when the fairy lights die down and one gets bored, or the other lets some sign of a personality or the fact they're human slip, it all goes down the drain.
In summary, it's best to ignore the toxic dickheads desperately trying to reclaim control in an increasingly equalised society and act as much or as little as a stereotypical "woman" as you would like, and find someone who respects and loves you for it. Leave the "alpha brahs" to their four failed marriages and ferraris they purchase for the inevitable mid-life crisis when they're single at 45.
tl;dr: "Men want feminine women!"
No.
I know a certain group of men love to push the myth around that ultimately, evolution wins and men want fair, young maidens who keep their mouths shut and other bodily appendages open on demand, cook them their meals, dress nicely and take good care of babies. If you do not fall into this mold, you will, most unfortunately, not bag yourself a man who has less respect for you than his wash flannel and die a lonely, old cat woman.
The thing is, I have yet to see any proof on this. Yes, there is proof that a number of men like youthful women, and breasts, and also that a pathological fear of women and insecurity/ emasculation is so common it's masked as "men liking submissive women." But where is any of the proof this makes for healthy, ideal, long-lasting relationships?
We don't have enough evidence from our current time to say it works out, and previous generations (as people often hail this being where the model comes from, and that we should return to it) only stayed together because divorce was bad. They often came to resent each other, though.
This isn't a formula to bag a husband. This is a formula to get certain men attracted to you, and keep their attention long enough that you will get them down the aisle and have their kids. From what I've seen, because the aforementioned men have so little respect for women as people in the first place, have a strong sense of entitlement and get bored quickly, they inevitably wind up having affairs, and the marriage fails. I've come across men like this, and they actually blame the woman for not being enough. It does not work out because a fundamental part of lasting relationships isn't there. It's based entirely on gender roles and perceptions of dominance/ submission - and when the fairy lights die down and one gets bored, or the other lets some sign of a personality or the fact they're human slip, it all goes down the drain.
In summary, it's best to ignore the toxic dickheads desperately trying to reclaim control in an increasingly equalised society and act as much or as little as a stereotypical "woman" as you would like, and find someone who respects and loves you for it. Leave the "alpha brahs" to their four failed marriages and ferraris they purchase for the inevitable mid-life crisis when they're single at 45.
tl;dr: "Men want feminine women!"
No.
Put the internet to work for you.
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