We've only been together 4 months, and from the start he's been open with the fact that I'm not his usual type (both looks and personality wise). At first I took this as a compliment, that he must really like me anyway even though I'm not his type.
But now it's getting hard to constantly feel like I'm not good enough. He's got this 'perfect girlfriend' image in his head and every time I do something which doesn't fit with that he is dissapointed. Often he won't say but then later he'll bring it up, for instance, he asked if I wanted to go for a meal with him and his housemates at the last minute and I was really tired so politely declined. A few days later he told me he couldn't believe I'd not go because he'd 'do anything' for me. Basically he keeps telling me how he feels he is putting more in than he is getting out, even though I'm doing all I can. I can't change my personality. He wants a fun loving, spontaneous and adventurous girlfriend and that's just not me.
He also doesn't think we are compatible on a lot of things, to me the things he refers to aren't that important (music for example) and I tell him that it's impossible to find someone with exactly the same interests, to which he replied 'no its not, because I have before'.
He tells me he likes me for who I am, but I just feel like he wishes I was this perfect girl. I just want him to understand that I'm not always going to act the way he wishes I would. I don't even know why he's with me if I'm not what he wants a girlfriend to be.
But now it's getting hard to constantly feel like I'm not good enough. He's got this 'perfect girlfriend' image in his head and every time I do something which doesn't fit with that he is dissapointed. Often he won't say but then later he'll bring it up, for instance, he asked if I wanted to go for a meal with him and his housemates at the last minute and I was really tired so politely declined. A few days later he told me he couldn't believe I'd not go because he'd 'do anything' for me. Basically he keeps telling me how he feels he is putting more in than he is getting out, even though I'm doing all I can. I can't change my personality. He wants a fun loving, spontaneous and adventurous girlfriend and that's just not me.
He also doesn't think we are compatible on a lot of things, to me the things he refers to aren't that important (music for example) and I tell him that it's impossible to find someone with exactly the same interests, to which he replied 'no its not, because I have before'.
He tells me he likes me for who I am, but I just feel like he wishes I was this perfect girl. I just want him to understand that I'm not always going to act the way he wishes I would. I don't even know why he's with me if I'm not what he wants a girlfriend to be.
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