Wifes drinking has evolved

I am new to this but here it goes. My wife and I have been married for 17 years, she has always drank except when she was preganant, as have I until I saw that I did not want my kids to see me as a drunk. I quit drinking very easily no problems and I ask my wife to do the same but she never has. Her drinking until recently was done at home, for the last year I did not know if I would come home to her drunk or sober, Then I started finding her in the drive passed out behind the wheel. I expressed to her how dangerous this was getting and ask her to get help. I work days and she works 2nd shift. One night she did not come home at all, I woke up at midnight could not find her nor get an answer on her cell, I looked along her route home for a wreck but could not find her, the next day she tells me she spent the night in a parking lot drinking and did not want to come home. I have been battling cancer for the past seven years and have been in remission, but wi thin the last 2 months had a scare that my cancer had progressed into a more aggressive stage. My doctor had scheduled a MRI and CAT scan for the following day the night before the test I found my wife in the drive again passed out, I got her in and got her into bed, the next morning I told her if she cared for me at all to please get help, because between her drinking and my health problems I was at the end of my rope, she promised it would never happen again. I thought things for her were turning around until my son and I went to where she had an odd job cleaning a house to see if she would like to go out to eat, when I saw her I knew she had been drinking again, we just turned and left. After having our meal we returned home but my wife had not shown up by 10:00Pm so afraid she was in a accident I searched for her all night. The next day my daughter finally gets her on the cell and ask her where she is and to come home. I was at this point more than just a little pissed. After getting home I ask were she had been she said she did not remember but woke up in a motel. I ask if she was with someone else she said to sit down she needed to tell me something, so I did. I did not know what to expect. She told me she remembers being with what was suppose to be a friend from her work named Ronnie but she woke up naked in a motel and don't remember anything or if any sex had taken place. Later that week my daughter confessed that she knew that my wife had been seeing Ronnie but as far as she knew they had only kissed, I confronted my wife with this info she said he gave her the alcohol when ever she felt like drinking and they would sit in the parking lot at work and drink. She insist that she had told him the kissing had to stop because she was married. I am at my witts end I love my wife dearly but the thought of her being with another man has just about broke me. I have since confronted Ronnie he is married too by the way, he says she was too drunk to drive so he got her a room and left for home. I want to believe so very bad that this is what happened but deep in my mind I believe more happened. WHAT DO I DO?:(

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