My wife and I have been trying to work out the sex issue that is pervasive in our marriage. As background we have two kids, 4 yrs old and 7 months old. She stays home and breastfeeds the 7 month old but the BFing has weaned dramatically now that he has started eating solid food. He sleeps through the night and has been for about 3 months. He's a good baby, much easier than the first.
This problem started when she became pregnant with the second and has continued throughout the pregnancy and now in the 7 months since he was born.
So on to the problem. We haven't had intercourse in about a year. After the baby was born we did engage in sexual activity about once a week which usually consisted of mutual masturbation. It was ok for awhile. Note: she won't give BJs and never really has.
So in the past two months approximately she has now decided she doesn't even want me to touch her sexually. Whenever I try she pulls my hand away and says she can't get in the mood and she can't help it. She will give me a handjob either fully clothed or will take just her pants off. I am very upset about the situation. I asked her why she can't get turned on and she says she doesn't know. I asked her if she was still attracted to me and she said yes.
I've done what I can to help her relax. Yesterday for example I watched the kids while she got her haircut and then went to get a pedicure in the afternoon. Then we went on a date last night and came home to the offer of another handjob and her not wanting to be touched.
Is this normal? I know women can lose sex drive after birth and especially BFing but I haven't even been able to touch her sexually since Christmas. She's just dead as far as intimacy. Am I wrong to expect her to be turned on every now and then?
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This problem started when she became pregnant with the second and has continued throughout the pregnancy and now in the 7 months since he was born.
So on to the problem. We haven't had intercourse in about a year. After the baby was born we did engage in sexual activity about once a week which usually consisted of mutual masturbation. It was ok for awhile. Note: she won't give BJs and never really has.
So in the past two months approximately she has now decided she doesn't even want me to touch her sexually. Whenever I try she pulls my hand away and says she can't get in the mood and she can't help it. She will give me a handjob either fully clothed or will take just her pants off. I am very upset about the situation. I asked her why she can't get turned on and she says she doesn't know. I asked her if she was still attracted to me and she said yes.
I've done what I can to help her relax. Yesterday for example I watched the kids while she got her haircut and then went to get a pedicure in the afternoon. Then we went on a date last night and came home to the offer of another handjob and her not wanting to be touched.
Is this normal? I know women can lose sex drive after birth and especially BFing but I haven't even been able to touch her sexually since Christmas. She's just dead as far as intimacy. Am I wrong to expect her to be turned on every now and then?
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