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Separated long distance, should I date?

I know every case is unique and depends upon situations and the personalities and feelings of those involved. I have read this forum with interest, but have not found anything specific to my situation. I have been married over 10 years and we were both very happy up until about 3 ½ years ago. The sexual relationship stopped at that time and we have basically been living a "sexless marriage". There were a couple of reasons for this which I realize now – trying to have a baby and failing, my concentration on career and neglecting her unintentionally. Last year my wife travelled to her native country where most of her family lives. We spent a total of 6 months apart last year and have currently been apart for 4 months and will likely be apart for a total of 9 months in all this year. One of the things my wife said was she needed time apart and to find herself as she was depressed. She wants to get better, and then work on our marriage. Considering all of these issues, I have tried to be very patient with hopes she will return and we can repair our marriage, to get back to where we were before. However, it has been difficult being alone and not having sex for close to four years. It is like my basic psychological and sexual needs are starving. In many people's minds and ours we are in a separation, due to no sex, being physically apart, and need of my wife to find herself. The reason I am writing is I have met someone that seems really compatible with me, very similar interests and is drop dead gorgeous. I have not asked her on a date but am reasonably confident she would accept as we hit it off when we met. I am in a dilemma to start something with this new woman or hold out on the hopes that in 6 months I can save my marriage. How I feel is I love my wife, but am very uncertain about being successful reviving the romance. My wife has said she wants to try again. By the way we have no children. The woman of interest here where I live is going through a divorce that is not yet final. I feel very tempted to start dating this new woman, but should I? My concern is my wife and I have evolved to a platonic love and I am looking for more than that. I am uncertain if we can revive the romance. Of course, the new woman is very attractive. Should I resist the animal instinct and suppress the evolutionary force that has gotten men into trouble before? My life experience has taught me that one should not hesitate in making decisions or waiting. If I wait and try to repair my marriage and it fails, this "ideal woman" may be no longer available and the opportunity lost. On the other hand, I may try to be friends with the woman, see if I can repair my marriage and if fails, try to date her then when her divorce is settled and when she may be freer emotionally. What should I do? Thanks in advance for any feedback.

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