My husband is a frequent porn watcher. How do I get more than vanilla sex in the bedr

So my husband watches porn a lot. He does it a lot when I am not home. Which I am fine, with as long as he doesn't watch when I am home since I am there to please him, I watch it too when he isn't there to take care of my needs. Here is my dilemma we have very vanilla sex, the basics I get him ready, lube up and go through the motion. I have told him I am up for anything all he has to do is start and I will follow lead or ask. We have married for 5 years and he is 14 years older than me. He is in his 40's I am still in my 20's still very much into having sex at the drop the pants (literally). We were very sexual in the first three years of our relationship and then it just seemed to switch. We stopped doing more than the sex part, for example kissing we don't do it anymore, no foreplay at all, we are stuck on about 4 positions. When I bring up that I want more I want him to do things to me that he watches, he says that's only a fantasy. What I don't get i s when you have a wife who is willing to fulfill your fantasy why not act on it. So tell me guys what can I do to get more from him.
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I have tried to watch porn with him and he gets really uncomfortable. If I bring it up it starts a fight.

If I try to take the lead in the bedroom, even something as small as trying to kiss while we are in the middle of it he completely stops and says no.

I have a drawer full of victoria secret outfits and fredrick of hollywood. I have dressed up for him. Since he is older he even likes the stockings with strap outfits that were popular in the eighties. I have dressed up for him and still nothing.

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