Okay, I have been a lurker until now. My apologies for making this so long so I am leaving out a lot of details. So I will try to be as brief as possible.
Married 21 years, three kids ages 20, 19, and 17. Wife is from the Philippines and a former beauty queen who still has her looks. She is a terrific mother and a very supportive wife.
I have been faithful, a good father, and a good husband to her. In fact, her single friends call her lucky to be married to me.
But stuff happens and here is the stuff that happened in this case.
In December 2008 she went to work at a big chain that does not support unions (you all know which one that is). She had to because we had two kids in boarding school and the water heater went bad. Meanwhile, her mother, who was on dialysis, lived with us for a few years before returning home to die in January 2009. She passed in December 2009.
In June 2009 I had a total knee replacement and but in the last few stages of rehab (it ended in October) I had the feeling that something was wrong but could not put my finger on it.
In January 2010 a few things happened that aroused my suspicion so, for the first time, I checked the phone records and found literally thousands of texts with some guy dating back to late September. She lied about how they met but I eventually figured out they worked together. When I found out she immediately ended the EA. I do not know if it became physical but intend to find out.
A few months later she returned home from work late at night (it was legitimate because of her hours) and drove into the driveway talking to some guy. To make a long story short, they became friends because he helped her get rid of the one she had the EA with.
In 2011 my wife started what my middle child called her disappearing act. She would go to the sore for milk at 5 and return home at 9. This took place two or three times a week. She also wanted time alone on Tuesday afternoons.
Of course, I was suspicious. On one occasion, she left her glasses at home and I took them to her work. She also worked for a physician and at this place there is a long parking lot with a Starbucks on one end and a dance studio at the other. The lot's shape is like half a rectangle so one can park in a hidden spot around the corner.
When I dropped off her glasses around 6 pm (it closed at 7) I noticed the office was busy and figured that they would close late. They did but around 8:45 she had not gotten home yet. Since it was only a 3 mile drive I went to her office to see if she was still there. The lot was empty. I drove the length of the lot and saw her car parked in a secluded section of the lot. Oh, she normally parked in the middle of the lot.
This was an apparent rendezvous and I left in puzzlement. When I returned she was getting into her car but denied having met with anyone. This was an obvious lie but I had no proof that she met with someone.
Over the next few months from time to time she lied about her whereabouts. On one occasion she claimed she was meeting a friend at 7 pm at a local donut shop. She took my keys, at came back with a fresh coffee and donuts around 9. She always returned around 9.
Problem is that the friend cannot see well at night and does not drive. When I saw her the next morning she told me she had not spoken to my wife in a month.
So that is only part of the background.
Today I received a call from a very angry woman and she told me that my wife was having an affair with her husband. This is the same guy who "helped her" het rid of the guy with whom she had the EA.
She told me that someone at the store saw her in a car last year kissing her husband and that she was also seen with someone. I think I know who that guy is.
My wife just left for the Philippines yesterday and I called her at the hotel. She denied any impropriety but I do not believe her. You see, my suspicions remained because she never answered my questions. It was always, "how could you think of me that way," or "you have a dirty mind," or she would get angry.
The guy's wife is calling me back tonight and we have agreed to meet tomorrow for coffee.
I should point out that we have no proof that they slept together but she thinks she can pressure him into telling the truth. I also told her to check their credit card and bank records. She does not think they slept together in her home and I know they did not do it in ours. We both have nosy neighbors and that helps.
So, if anything happened, it happened at a hotel.
Any feedback will be appreciated.
Thanks.
Married 21 years, three kids ages 20, 19, and 17. Wife is from the Philippines and a former beauty queen who still has her looks. She is a terrific mother and a very supportive wife.
I have been faithful, a good father, and a good husband to her. In fact, her single friends call her lucky to be married to me.
But stuff happens and here is the stuff that happened in this case.
In December 2008 she went to work at a big chain that does not support unions (you all know which one that is). She had to because we had two kids in boarding school and the water heater went bad. Meanwhile, her mother, who was on dialysis, lived with us for a few years before returning home to die in January 2009. She passed in December 2009.
In June 2009 I had a total knee replacement and but in the last few stages of rehab (it ended in October) I had the feeling that something was wrong but could not put my finger on it.
In January 2010 a few things happened that aroused my suspicion so, for the first time, I checked the phone records and found literally thousands of texts with some guy dating back to late September. She lied about how they met but I eventually figured out they worked together. When I found out she immediately ended the EA. I do not know if it became physical but intend to find out.
A few months later she returned home from work late at night (it was legitimate because of her hours) and drove into the driveway talking to some guy. To make a long story short, they became friends because he helped her get rid of the one she had the EA with.
In 2011 my wife started what my middle child called her disappearing act. She would go to the sore for milk at 5 and return home at 9. This took place two or three times a week. She also wanted time alone on Tuesday afternoons.
Of course, I was suspicious. On one occasion, she left her glasses at home and I took them to her work. She also worked for a physician and at this place there is a long parking lot with a Starbucks on one end and a dance studio at the other. The lot's shape is like half a rectangle so one can park in a hidden spot around the corner.
When I dropped off her glasses around 6 pm (it closed at 7) I noticed the office was busy and figured that they would close late. They did but around 8:45 she had not gotten home yet. Since it was only a 3 mile drive I went to her office to see if she was still there. The lot was empty. I drove the length of the lot and saw her car parked in a secluded section of the lot. Oh, she normally parked in the middle of the lot.
This was an apparent rendezvous and I left in puzzlement. When I returned she was getting into her car but denied having met with anyone. This was an obvious lie but I had no proof that she met with someone.
Over the next few months from time to time she lied about her whereabouts. On one occasion she claimed she was meeting a friend at 7 pm at a local donut shop. She took my keys, at came back with a fresh coffee and donuts around 9. She always returned around 9.
Problem is that the friend cannot see well at night and does not drive. When I saw her the next morning she told me she had not spoken to my wife in a month.
So that is only part of the background.
Today I received a call from a very angry woman and she told me that my wife was having an affair with her husband. This is the same guy who "helped her" het rid of the guy with whom she had the EA.
She told me that someone at the store saw her in a car last year kissing her husband and that she was also seen with someone. I think I know who that guy is.
My wife just left for the Philippines yesterday and I called her at the hotel. She denied any impropriety but I do not believe her. You see, my suspicions remained because she never answered my questions. It was always, "how could you think of me that way," or "you have a dirty mind," or she would get angry.
The guy's wife is calling me back tonight and we have agreed to meet tomorrow for coffee.
I should point out that we have no proof that they slept together but she thinks she can pressure him into telling the truth. I also told her to check their credit card and bank records. She does not think they slept together in her home and I know they did not do it in ours. We both have nosy neighbors and that helps.
So, if anything happened, it happened at a hotel.
Any feedback will be appreciated.
Thanks.
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