Hi, I apologise in advance if this sounds rambley or a bit pathetic.
Basically I'm confused about the people I'm attracted too. I'm a 19 and female.
I have had 1 proper relationship when I was 16 for 6 months with a boy. However I never really enjoyed it that much, it felt more like an extension of our friendship, and although I loved hanging out and talking to him I was never really attracted to him and never lusted after him. Looking back on it, I put this down to age and lack of chemistry for him.
Since then, I've found myself madly crushing over people I'm very close to as friends. The first was my best friend who was female. I've never found other girls particularly attractive, but after getting to know her as a friend and spending almost all my time with her I became pretty attracted to her. However I never acted on it.
Since then we've grown apart, but I recently met a boy at university. He is quite like her in a lot of ways, not conventionally attractive, unusual but fascinating personality and a trustworthy friend. At first I had no attraction for him and liked him purely as a friend, but recently I realised I like him as more than that. However, as with my female friend, I'm not sure that if I acted on this that I'd actually be able to have a successful relationship with them because I still don't have a huge amount of physical attraction for them.
What confuses me even more is that although I have a high sex drive and really feel I'd ready to lose my virginity with someone, I can't bring myself to just pick a guy up at a club, and often I find that when I go out I don't find anyone attractive that I'd want to sleep with.
So yeah, anyone find this themselves? And do you think a relationship can work out without initial attraction for them?
Basically I'm confused about the people I'm attracted too. I'm a 19 and female.
I have had 1 proper relationship when I was 16 for 6 months with a boy. However I never really enjoyed it that much, it felt more like an extension of our friendship, and although I loved hanging out and talking to him I was never really attracted to him and never lusted after him. Looking back on it, I put this down to age and lack of chemistry for him.
Since then, I've found myself madly crushing over people I'm very close to as friends. The first was my best friend who was female. I've never found other girls particularly attractive, but after getting to know her as a friend and spending almost all my time with her I became pretty attracted to her. However I never acted on it.
Since then we've grown apart, but I recently met a boy at university. He is quite like her in a lot of ways, not conventionally attractive, unusual but fascinating personality and a trustworthy friend. At first I had no attraction for him and liked him purely as a friend, but recently I realised I like him as more than that. However, as with my female friend, I'm not sure that if I acted on this that I'd actually be able to have a successful relationship with them because I still don't have a huge amount of physical attraction for them.
What confuses me even more is that although I have a high sex drive and really feel I'd ready to lose my virginity with someone, I can't bring myself to just pick a guy up at a club, and often I find that when I go out I don't find anyone attractive that I'd want to sleep with.
So yeah, anyone find this themselves? And do you think a relationship can work out without initial attraction for them?
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