I was married to a great man for 5 years then to an addict for the next 3 years!! I knew he had a drinking problem before he met me and it was years before he would even a glass of wine with me. He cheated on me a few years ago and the addictions just keep on coming!! He is a sex addict, porn addict, but worst of all is I think he is a compulsive liar. He was going to bars several months ago and he told me he had "slipped". He told me he went to a bar to drink twice. When the whole truth finally came out, he was stopping by the bar on his way home from work then going back later, usually after 10 pm. He met some people there once and went to their house to play cards until 2 am. He had to be at work at 6am so he was late, still drunk and putting his CDL in jeopardy by driving. we went thru a really rough patch after that but he started back working on his 12 steps and was going to counseling.But then his job moved again so he was too far away from both. H is counselor said they could Skype sessions but he just kept putting it off. I finally could not take the nagging doubts about our past so I had him take a polygraph test. It was very stressful on both of us and pretty expensive but he agreed to it. And he passed with flying colors!! But after all that...I caught him in another lie. And it's such a shame that it was such a small lie. He told me he had 2 drinks but the next day he told me it was 3. Now I am back to doubting everything he says or has ever said. He seemed to think that once I "cooled off" everything would go back to normal. My birthday was since the last lie and he was so sweet...threw me a surprise party, sent flowers, mailed cards and drove home(2 1/2 hours) to take me out to lunch. I know he thinks that should make up for the lie but he is so wrong. He has lied to me so many times!! He will look me straight in the eye and swear he is telling me the truth just for the real truth to come out later. But it seem s when he is working to cover up a lie, his porn and sex addiction isn't so bad. Does anybody else deal with somebody with different addictions?
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