For the past several months, my marriage has been a rollercoaster.I've read so many books and tried to make many changes with myself. I have grown a lot and I have made many changes...All that is good for me.
The best advice that I received here was to detatch and start focusing on my own interests. Works for me.I thoroughly enjoy my time away from my wife.
So over time my wife was nicer and initiated sex more than ever...
Then she lost her job, which wasn't much anyway. I thought she would start to do more at home...that never happened.
While she was working, I started to do my normal cooking,cleaning, and whatever else. I just wanted her to work on her career for once. So when she stopped working, she still expected me to do the same amount at home.
The 180 took a huge setback.
I am still having time for myself with my hiking group and after four months, I am making friends for the first time in 20 years. I feel my wife resenting me more because I am out having fun. So then she does even less.
Several months when I read MMSL...it was a nightmare. That was when she told me to have sex with other women...I think she told me that before I read the book. Not sure....
My wife and I didn't talk to each other at all. She wanted the old me back. The one who cleaned the house, cooked, listened to her, agreed with everything she said...
So I waver back and forth between that.
If I am passive and calmly let her know I want sex, she will comply. As long as she has a two day break.
So the house is a mess, I cook, and do whatever I can do to avoid friction...all the while, I am burning up inside.
The little Christmas thing caused a little setback.
I love my wife...I just don't like her right now... I don't like what she does. Or in her case, I don't like what she doesn't do...
The best advice that I received here was to detatch and start focusing on my own interests. Works for me.I thoroughly enjoy my time away from my wife.
So over time my wife was nicer and initiated sex more than ever...
Then she lost her job, which wasn't much anyway. I thought she would start to do more at home...that never happened.
While she was working, I started to do my normal cooking,cleaning, and whatever else. I just wanted her to work on her career for once. So when she stopped working, she still expected me to do the same amount at home.
The 180 took a huge setback.
I am still having time for myself with my hiking group and after four months, I am making friends for the first time in 20 years. I feel my wife resenting me more because I am out having fun. So then she does even less.
Several months when I read MMSL...it was a nightmare. That was when she told me to have sex with other women...I think she told me that before I read the book. Not sure....
My wife and I didn't talk to each other at all. She wanted the old me back. The one who cleaned the house, cooked, listened to her, agreed with everything she said...
So I waver back and forth between that.
If I am passive and calmly let her know I want sex, she will comply. As long as she has a two day break.
So the house is a mess, I cook, and do whatever I can do to avoid friction...all the while, I am burning up inside.
The little Christmas thing caused a little setback.
I love my wife...I just don't like her right now... I don't like what she does. Or in her case, I don't like what she doesn't do...
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