I know in the grand scheme of things this is a small issue. I do know that, however, this is really bothering me and I guess I am wondering if my hurt feelings are legitimate, or if I should just suck it up and move on. I'm pretty sure I know the answer, but maybe if I write it down then I will be able to let it go.
My birthday was last week (the big 50 whoohoo). The past two years my husband and I have spent my birthday in Maui. My mother had died last year and after spending the last 6 months of her life with her as she fought lung cancer, I decided you aren't promised tomorrow, and I would spend MY remaining birthdays in my favorite place every year. I know how fortunate I am to be able to do this.
Our grown sons live fairly close to us and they watch our two small dogs while we are gone. We also watch their dogs multiple times a year when they are gone. No big deal, we all love dogs. Last year, when we returned home, my son mentioned that watching our dogs was my birthday present. Okay:scratchhead: felt a little under appreciated, we go all out for their birthday,but okay.
This year we return home and older son picks us up at airport. His girlfriend gives me roses, wow...how nice. She says " happy birthday, I thought it would be nice to get you some flowers, **** didn't want to but I made him! he said you didn't need flowers". Sucked all the joy right out of those flowers!
Younger son and girlfriend (we consider her a DIL and refer to her that way) come over, we give them Maui gifts. Son does say first time I've seen you since your bday, Happy birthday. I also will say both sons called me on my Bday to tell me happy Birthday.
So I feel hurt. We spend 100+ on their birthdays and also girlfriends bday. We just bought younger son and GF a grill and a big safe as house warming gifts on the purchase of their new home. I mention this, not as oh look what we bought, but that we try to do thoughtful things for them all the time. When we watch their dog, I go pick him up. Thanksgiving coming up, we always celebrate on Sat after Thanksgiving every year because son and girlfriend always go to her family on Thanksgiving day. I am perfectly ok with this, I am just happy to see them and son wants my Thanksgiving food so I fix it all the next Saturday every year.
I know I should just be happy they called and said happy Birthday, but I can't get over these very hurt feelings. I don't want some huge present, but something, a card, something? My children make very good money, money is not an issue.
Christmas is coming up and yes, I usually go all out. I always cook, and everyone gets gifts, stockings and a fun Santa gift. This year I am thinking everyone is getting a gift card and some chocolate they all love that I have already ordered and had shipped special from England, that we can't get here. Already did it, or I wouldn't. I feel so petty for feeling this way, but can't seem to get past it. Yeah, I know third world problem, right?
My birthday was last week (the big 50 whoohoo). The past two years my husband and I have spent my birthday in Maui. My mother had died last year and after spending the last 6 months of her life with her as she fought lung cancer, I decided you aren't promised tomorrow, and I would spend MY remaining birthdays in my favorite place every year. I know how fortunate I am to be able to do this.
Our grown sons live fairly close to us and they watch our two small dogs while we are gone. We also watch their dogs multiple times a year when they are gone. No big deal, we all love dogs. Last year, when we returned home, my son mentioned that watching our dogs was my birthday present. Okay:scratchhead: felt a little under appreciated, we go all out for their birthday,but okay.
This year we return home and older son picks us up at airport. His girlfriend gives me roses, wow...how nice. She says " happy birthday, I thought it would be nice to get you some flowers, **** didn't want to but I made him! he said you didn't need flowers". Sucked all the joy right out of those flowers!
Younger son and girlfriend (we consider her a DIL and refer to her that way) come over, we give them Maui gifts. Son does say first time I've seen you since your bday, Happy birthday. I also will say both sons called me on my Bday to tell me happy Birthday.
So I feel hurt. We spend 100+ on their birthdays and also girlfriends bday. We just bought younger son and GF a grill and a big safe as house warming gifts on the purchase of their new home. I mention this, not as oh look what we bought, but that we try to do thoughtful things for them all the time. When we watch their dog, I go pick him up. Thanksgiving coming up, we always celebrate on Sat after Thanksgiving every year because son and girlfriend always go to her family on Thanksgiving day. I am perfectly ok with this, I am just happy to see them and son wants my Thanksgiving food so I fix it all the next Saturday every year.
I know I should just be happy they called and said happy Birthday, but I can't get over these very hurt feelings. I don't want some huge present, but something, a card, something? My children make very good money, money is not an issue.
Christmas is coming up and yes, I usually go all out. I always cook, and everyone gets gifts, stockings and a fun Santa gift. This year I am thinking everyone is getting a gift card and some chocolate they all love that I have already ordered and had shipped special from England, that we can't get here. Already did it, or I wouldn't. I feel so petty for feeling this way, but can't seem to get past it. Yeah, I know third world problem, right?
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