My wife of 11 years approached me 3 months ago and said that she does not love me any more, that we need to communicate better and that if I don't change my ways, that she is going to leave me. Over the next 2 months I changed everything I that I could about myself, tried to talk to her more but she was resistant, did most of the work around the house, gave her compliments about things that I didn't do too often before and many other things. She then told me that I needed to move out for a while so that she can see if she could miss me while i was gone and that she doesn't feel anything for me anymore and that all the changes that I have made didn't change the way she feels about me like they should have. Come to find out that she has been feeling unhappy for the last 4 1/2 years and that has no more feelings for me. Less than a week into the seperation she tells me that she wants a divorce and that she has nothing left to give. We have been communic ating over the last few weeks about the divorce and about the kids. We have both started counseling seperately and we are going to start counseling together to try to make things work. She tells me that part of her wants to make this work but part of her doesn't because she is hurt and scared that things won't change. She has also been put on depression meds and has a lot of personal issues that she needs to deal with about her past. I love her more than anything and I am willing to do anything to fix our marriage and I want to help her through all of this. I admit that our communication has not been good and that I am partly to blame for that and that I have not been the ideal husband that I should have been, but I have changed and view her in a totally different way than I did before and she is the center and most important person in my life along with our kids. I just want to know if she can eventually forgive me and love me again and that their is hope for our marr iage
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