Hello everyone, I need a little help. I have no one to talk to and I need to sort my thoughts and feelings out.
I'm 30, husband is 32, married for 7 years. We have a sweet 14 month old daughter. During all these years we had a really good marriage, always got along great, had fun and goals and dreams in common. But things started changing about a year ago or so.
My husband started to become more distant. Maybe more "comfortable" or "settled". I started to realize that I was always the one chasing after his affection. He stopped the little sweet gestures, like the occasional sweet text, coming from behind me and giving me a hug while cooking, no more "I love you", no more dates unless I am the one who comes up with the idea. No more celebrating "special" dates (my last birthday he was gone with his friends all day and I didn't get a present).
He is still a really good husband, and does lots of nice things for me, I just don't feel he's in love with me anymore. If I try to discuss these things with him he mocks me and invalidates my feelings telling me I'm crazy and that I have no reason to feel bad, that he didn't do anything wrong.
Today I tried to talk to him again and, like always, I ended up even more hurt. I asked him why he doesn't say I love you and he said that people overuse it and that it feels "fake". That hurt, but he doesn't seem to realize it. He just gets all pissy and then goes on about his business. He wont say he's still in love with me, just that "he's pretty happy with the way things are".
I don't want to be in a relationship in which I'm not loved. But I have a daughter and I don't want to ruin hers. Communication sucks since he hates talking about this kind of thing. I feel like I must sacrifice my personal happiness for my daughter. I feel like I walked into my own trap.
Is there any way to turn things around? I really really love my husband and want things to work, but I can't get him on board because he thinks things are fine this way and doesn't care about what I think or feel.
I really try my best to be a good wife. I do everything I can for him. I cook for him, take care of his things. Sex is great, I work hard on myself to stay attractive. I support him on any endeavor he embarks on. I try to stay positive and happy, but sometimes it's really hard.
Please help. Thanks.
I'm 30, husband is 32, married for 7 years. We have a sweet 14 month old daughter. During all these years we had a really good marriage, always got along great, had fun and goals and dreams in common. But things started changing about a year ago or so.
My husband started to become more distant. Maybe more "comfortable" or "settled". I started to realize that I was always the one chasing after his affection. He stopped the little sweet gestures, like the occasional sweet text, coming from behind me and giving me a hug while cooking, no more "I love you", no more dates unless I am the one who comes up with the idea. No more celebrating "special" dates (my last birthday he was gone with his friends all day and I didn't get a present).
He is still a really good husband, and does lots of nice things for me, I just don't feel he's in love with me anymore. If I try to discuss these things with him he mocks me and invalidates my feelings telling me I'm crazy and that I have no reason to feel bad, that he didn't do anything wrong.
Today I tried to talk to him again and, like always, I ended up even more hurt. I asked him why he doesn't say I love you and he said that people overuse it and that it feels "fake". That hurt, but he doesn't seem to realize it. He just gets all pissy and then goes on about his business. He wont say he's still in love with me, just that "he's pretty happy with the way things are".
I don't want to be in a relationship in which I'm not loved. But I have a daughter and I don't want to ruin hers. Communication sucks since he hates talking about this kind of thing. I feel like I must sacrifice my personal happiness for my daughter. I feel like I walked into my own trap.
Is there any way to turn things around? I really really love my husband and want things to work, but I can't get him on board because he thinks things are fine this way and doesn't care about what I think or feel.
I really try my best to be a good wife. I do everything I can for him. I cook for him, take care of his things. Sex is great, I work hard on myself to stay attractive. I support him on any endeavor he embarks on. I try to stay positive and happy, but sometimes it's really hard.
Please help. Thanks.
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