My husband and I are separated but things may be looking up. My sister in law isn't technically an in-law, as she is just the GF of my husband's brother, but they're very serious so I'm calling her a sister in law. She's an ex-cheerleader, really peppy, energetic, and positive - on the surface. But for whatever reason I get the impression she's easily threatened, and gives quite a few signs that she's threatened by me specifically. Or maybe she simply doesn't like me, not sure... either way, she hasn't given me a fair shake and is extremely passive aggressive. I'd actually go further to say she's covert-aggressive. As long as she has the guys in the family fooled, she seems content to get away with acting like this. My husband & brother in law's mother seems to be wise to this girl, but anyway... they were all at our house a few months ago for a party we hosted and I was really accommodating to everyone, especially her, of course to no avail... later in t he night a song was played that offended her sensibilities. She seems very easy to offend. She and the brother in law disappeared for a little bit and we finally realized they were fighting in our front yard; she had gotten so incensed by this song that she lost her temper. She eventually marched up to me asking me the meaning of the lyrics and I calmly told her, and she turned on her heel and left. Due to her meltdown, the brother in law sat there and jumped on me for playing a song, on my own patio, after the party we hosted! I told him straight up that she has big aggression problems, and things sort of settled down afterward (in her absence). Let me mention they are both typically very mature people and both hold respectable careers; so this behavior, in my opinion, really showed the person she keeps locked inside. Fast forward to now - I have not only never received an apology despite continuing to be nice to her - she recently unfriended me on Facebook for no reason wh atsoever. I haven't even seen her since she acted like an idiot at my house that night.
Like I said, I get the feeling that in all her "confidence" she still manages to feel threatened; and after seeing that my husband and I are separated, she took the opportunity to defriend - not just on Facebook - it seems to be a clear signal that it's just in general. So my question is, if my husband and I work things out, we will invariably have to be in the company of his brother and this sister in law again. I'm at the point where being the bigger person and simply being nice is getting a little old. Advice?
Like I said, I get the feeling that in all her "confidence" she still manages to feel threatened; and after seeing that my husband and I are separated, she took the opportunity to defriend - not just on Facebook - it seems to be a clear signal that it's just in general. So my question is, if my husband and I work things out, we will invariably have to be in the company of his brother and this sister in law again. I'm at the point where being the bigger person and simply being nice is getting a little old. Advice?
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