If you were wiling to try to forgive, would you need to know everything first?

Hi All So my wife wants forgiveness for what she claims is an EA, but I can't accept that it didn't go physical. Too many clues suggesting otherwise. The problem I have is that I can't move forward until she confesses because I have too much doubt that she is lying. I honestly don't know whether I will be able to forgive her if it did go physical, but it would at least allow us to discuss why it happened so I can begin to understand her side. I know there's the poly test, but I get the feeling that most couples don't go through with this and I would like her to just tell me everything out of respect (which I am due). Also we had one counselling session and the counsellor suggested that we 'look forward' and try not to go over what has happened, which is an ideal statement for my wife to remind me about! Is it just the way it is, that you have to move on with the marriage and accept that you'll never know for sure? Thanks BaT

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