| The story is not unique. Me and my wife have been married for 10+ years with two kids. I have always been a good provider and my main fault was spending more time at work and less time on her emotional needs. Despite this I never thought that she will ever cheat (you could call arrogance as another one of my faults). After years of what she perceived was the emotional abandonment about a year ago she started an affair with someone who was apparently in the same situation with his wife leaving him emotionally unfulfilled. Long story short, I found out and confronted her.. she said that she is sorry for hurting me but I had been hurting her for a very long time.. after many discussions we reached the point where we agreed to give each other another chance. As a result I completely changed my behavior and have been available and loving (and she has acknowldged as much) Despite this, I have found out conclusively that they are still seeing each other. I haven't let her know that I know but I have hinted that something is not right. The only reason why I want to try to make this work is that I know that I was guilty of pushing her away in first place and I can't expect her to let go cold turkey of someone who has given her joy for last year when I was missing for more than 10 years. I have thought about setting honey trap for this guy and have my wife see the evidence that she is in love with the wrong guy. I am hoping to get advice on what other alternatives are available to me. We have two kids together and I still love her, but as has been mentioned in other forums here, I acknowledge my mistake and have already taken steps to fix it. But I am also ready to cut my loses and move on if there is no hope. I know that she is torn even as she can't stop herself from seeing him and I feel that if I could break the spell she may give us a "real" chance. I just don't know how to break this spell. Thanks for hearing me out, your advice may save this family. | |||
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