| Okay so I'm 20 and have been with the love of my life for 2 years and 9 months. She is an amazing woman and I'm really lucky to have her! Our relationship is great, a few minor arguments here and there just like every other couple. The only issue in this relationship is that we don't have sex, this is due to her religion & bad experiences and I respect that. Now about 3 years back when we started getting to know each other there was no mention of this, infact I got the impression sex wouldn't be a problem with her. The way she would flirt & speak about it and what not though she's only had sex twice (once and a half she likes to say because the second guy wouldn't fit). So yeah she told me after about 3/4 months in & by then I had already fallen so bailing wasn't an option, I stuck with her. For about 2 years and a couple months we were doing everything but sex so while I wasn't getting any, I was still getting a sexual release so it wasn't that bad, I could deal with it. Recently though she decided everything else is still a sin and so we stopped doing anything. This is when it became really hard for me, baring in mind I was 100% sexually active before her. I endured and endured until I felt like I was going to pop and so I spoke to her about it without sounding like I'm basically saying we have to do it. I did feel like there was no other solution but breaking up as we both wanted different things. So yeah she didn't take to kindly to this and proposed we go on a break (positive time apart she says) to clear our minds and help sort her head out. We've met up a few times but our last meeting was a more serious one. We spoke about this time apart and how we should find a solution. we thought about just being friends (big big NO) and we just kept going round in circles really. Neither of us wants to break up at all & I can honestly say I can see myself spending the rest of my life with her but what can I do? Having sex is out of the question completely, I'm still at Uni and wont look at getting married for another 4/5 years. I love this girl but at the same time repressing these stupid desires is driving me nuts, I really wish I was still a virgin. What can I do? Any suggestions / thoughts? Advice? p.s no 'Get a thing on the side' comments pls! I cant do that | |||
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