| Okay this post isn't going to be structured very well and most of it willl be mindless rambling intertwined with poor grammar. Nevertheless, Okay I am an 18 year old, Muslim kid (Pakistani/Pashtun) Lol and no this isn't a fake thread to make muslims look bad. Anyway carrying on, I don't really believe in Islam but I live in a family where I would be beaten to a pulp and kicked out if I told that to anyone. I also have a girlfriend we've been together for two years and I've kept it secret, however my mom has started catching on and I'm feeling the strain. The girl has also kept it from her parents but they would be okay with it if they knew, but she really wants to tell them soon. I want her to as well, and I don't think it's fair if she has to keep it a secret. However if my parents found out I would probably get a fair beating and be disowned. However I have come to a decision tomorrow morning that I am just going to tell them about it, everythin g, and see what happens as I'd probably get disowned...The fact is to be honest it's not about my girlfriend it's about the principle, my parents literally take the piss all the time, I'm barely allowed to go out, I'm not allowed to have any girls that are friends. Also the main thing is that i'm sworn at literally all the time and I'm called at times like 5pm to check on me and that I have to come home, if not they're going to pick me up. LOL I'm 18, I'm not even allowed the option to take a driving test until after university. Also after university they will want me to have an arranged marriage anyway, that's the thing, I don't want to prolong this bull****. They want me to marry someone pashtun then, we just came back from pakistan (peshawar) and the whole time all they were talking about was my cousin who got married to a british girl, and they were talking about him like he was mixing with a **** culture and stuff and how he disobeyed his parents who had someone planned for him. They also always say don't act white when I complain about something. It's piss taking. I just want to have a life, it's like I live two...one in college and one at home. My girlfriend is british too (muslim).They keep saying you better not do that. And my mom says if i do have a girlfriend she'd never accept her but luckily she hasn't figured out yet. What do you guys think I should do? Should I just leave home and have a life? My parents would feel devastated, everyone in my community would be talking about how I was a **** son and all. P.s My personal tutor has said she was able to sort out long term 16 - 25 accomodation for me if I decided to go through with it So it's just this choice...Do I do it? Devestate my family? My mom would be crying? I would feel like a douche? But the thing is there is no way to talk them out of the arranged marriage thing in the future and I want my girlfriend now and my own life so...Lol it must seem so ridiculous that this is even a problem to you guys, im like 18 and I'm not even allowed this stuff (By the way this is not an anti muslim thread, just a cultural one) | |||
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