War over chores/finances/MC

I have been married for over 10 years. Recently, I started MC. First months went fine. I learned to be nicer, say Thank You more often and show appreciation. This was my counselor's idea of getting us closer to each other and make him to help me more around the house. He told me to kill with kindness. :) My husband knew how frustrated I felt, so he helped. But it did not last long. We are back where we were. He pushes my buttons, I yell at him and he won't help much if any. When I tried to talk to him about fair share , he said what a "b....ch" I became. He will complain about things not getting done, mess in the house, dirty laundry but he won't help at all. He criticizes me most of the time. I would understand if I was housewife but I work same hours as he does, plus I have 2 part time jobs. He is fixing computers on the side. I think there are chores that would not kill him like unloading dishwasher, fold his own clothes, vacuum once a week. He will vacuum if I beg, did his clothes once and never touched dishwasher. About finances - he spends evenings on his laptop searching for good deals on the internet. He will buy things we don't really need, or find reason to need them. His newest project is a fishing boat. He knows I do not agree with it but keeps saying he made his extra money so it is his business where he spends it. To me, there are more important things than his boat to pay. We have lots of loans and I know he will need things to take care of it and gas, so it is not just one time expense. We do not have kids yet, and with him having a boat, I can imagine where he is going to be most of the time. I feel like his maid. I can't stand it. I want to be with someone who can share responsibilities with me and not to assume it is my job just because I was born a woman. Same with kids. I want a father who will be involve in their lives and not to fish every afternoon. I feel so alone in this marriage. I had my hopes up when I started MC at first but after 3 months, I am not sure anymore. My biological clock is ticking and I don't know what to do....

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