Question for all the BS out there about trust

Almost all threads have the same answer when it comes to attempting to stop an EA/PA and recover the marriage. The responses are always: VAR, GPS, Key logger, passwords and many other things. Here is my question for any BS who would like to reply. I am trying to understand what kind of stress it puts on you in addition to the stress you already are, or have, encountered. Is it really worth it to 'monitor' every movement of the other party? Obvously there is no trust already.. the additional monitoring to me just seems to add to the anxiety of everyday life since the affair was discovered. NO trust = no relationship... What is/ was it like when you had to do all of this?

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