Husband is ALWAYS "sick"

Ok, I'm just irritated right now...I noticed 2 days ago that my tonsils felt swollen, but no sore throat. So I didn't say anything. Last night, I saw white patches on them. This morning I started feeling feverish. So...I then told my H I wasn't feeling great and wondered if I had strep throat, and I was going to the urgent care center so I could get started on antibiotics ASAP (I'm very prone to getting strep). My H starts in on "my throat is sore too...I don't feel very good either". All day he's been moping around very dramatically, leaning his head against the fridge as if he's too exhausted to get a drink. I asked him if he was ok at some point, and he said all irritably "I'm sick too!!" Right now he's taking a nap. I would give him the benefit of the doubt that he could be sick as well, but he does this anytime I mention feeling even slightly off...he always has to "one up" me. So I'm the one who went to the doctor and was prescribed antibiotics and told to rest, and he's the one taking a nap. There is ne'er a day that goes by that he doesn't have some ailment, ache, pain, upset, or something. Yesterday he moaned about his back for hours after the cat jumped in his lap and it scared him a bit, so he jerked a little and hurt his back. I am way too informed about his ability or inability to poop every day. He complained about his foot Friday b/c he had to stand on a ladder at work and that hurts his feet. He's always SO tired, as though no one else in the world has ever experienced tiredness to the level he does. He complains daily about his hernia repair (umbilical) which was done in July. They used a mesh to repair the hernia...so every day I hear about how his "mesh hurts still, when will it ever stop bothering him?" Also his arm still hurts from the I.V. in his arm for the surgery IN JULY! For years, he has done this attention getting thing (which doesn't work anymore but he still tries it): he'll be sitting watching TV and is obviously awake and engaged in watching the show. But as soon as I walk into the room or he sees me look at him, he sudddenly closes his eyes as if to show how exhausted he is. He wants me to ask him if he's ok, if he's tired, feel sorry for him...and I used to. But I don't anymore. I just figure he can choose to miss out on his TV show if he wants to practice his acting skills like that. All of his whining and complaining and focus on everything wrong about him is such a turn off. I'm a very sturdy woman, I rarely get sick, and I almost never complain about it even if I am. I get tired too...again, I don't make a big dramatic scene about it. If I can go to bed or take a nap, I will. If I can't, I see no point in making a big show of just HOW tired I am. I find that physical strength and health in a man is a big turn on for me. I don't mean chiseled body builder necessarily (although that's nice too!), I just mean strong and energetic in a physical sense, like if I needed him to do something for me, I wouldn't have to hear about how that "tore his back up". And to a greater extent, strength emotionally, so if I needed him to be strong for me once in a while, he would. I don't get that from him. I'm tired of feeling married to a 42 year old helpless old man.

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